Hi there counsellors. I'd like some assistance in clarifying my feelings/beliefs/opinions. I have this 18 year old IxFP female internet friend who I've known for.. fuck I dunno... couple years? We're not CLOOOSEE and only chat occasionally. I know her somewhat well. I haven't talked to her in a couple months maybe. I don't really pay too much attention to it. She's kinda on and off as far as internet presence, and I don't bother calling her :D
Anyhow, she told me today that she attempted suicide twice. First time she took 50 painkillers. Second time she took 70 and was hospitalized. She's feeling very depressed because her boyfriend dumped her. She does love him, but the relationship has been having problems for a while now. She's been going out with him for less than a year, but they've been best friends for a couple years. She says that she had to change herself to meet his needs. She says that she's usually the dominant one in a romantic relationship, and this guy needed her to be submissive/compliant, so she became that. She says that it really broke her down as a person.
See, the thing is, I know her. She's not a chronic complainer. She's not really inclined towards depression. She's kinda happy-go-lucky. Very easygoing, cool with pretty much anything. Good looking girl, good natured. She has no problem at all finding interested males. She does have her insecurities (pretty much all 18 year old females do), but all in all she's bright eyed and bushy tailed. I ~know~ that in time, probably less than a year, she'll be back to her old self, and be perfectly fine.
How do I feel? I'm not sure what I want to do here. I don't really like to meddle in other people's decisions unless I have a very good reason to. I could probably manipulate her into feeling better. I could probably manipulate her into reducing the odds she'll attempt suicide again. I'm not sure if I have the right to, though. And even if I don't have the ability, I'm pretty good at networking some INFJ advisor types to help me :D
Fuck, doesn't she have an INFJ best friend? Why do I get stuck with the heavy lifting? Of course, I don't want her to kill herself. There is a lot of joy for her to have. What I'm struggling most with is that it feels like I'm making decisions for her. I don't feel convinced that I have the right to intervene strongly (i.e. pull out the manipulation playbook).