This guy is complex! My Boyfriend-INTP, INFP, INFP..?

Hello, all.This is my first time posting here, so here goes! I know I am an ENFJ, but my boyfriend who i have been seeing for 6 months is quite intruiging. I dont know his Enneagram type, but he has very strong 2w1 or 5, 6 so/sx.
I had him take the MBTI from the career assessment book, and while he was a little shaky on the E vs I and P vs J, he was pretty clear about answering all the questions according to the F standpoint (as opposed to T)
However, there are some T traits about him and I am wondering if hes an INTP, INFP, or INFJ.
(Though, since we have an intimate relationship, it could be that he may come across as a f to me-especially since he knows I like feelers-in a relationship)
On the T side: He values knowledge and information and is a great troubleSHooter. He is objective and sees all sides of the picture, and can debate his ideas if he feels strongly about them. He doesnt like systems like the enneagram, and will argue it to death since he feels people are too complex and varied to be boxed in, and is it scientifically valid? He works first, plays later. He also doesnt like when people dont "get" how to do something that is plainly obvious. He likes detail in questions that people ask him- alot of things are too vague for him (i.e.-do you feel fear shame or anger? do you have to be in the mood to do things? Are you present or future oriented-he will answer "depends" and needs more specifics.)When someone is very upset, he will calm them down first , listen and then give advice, usually seeing all points of view. He likes detail and is opinionated. He is skeptical-because he was burnt a lot in the past. He likes to do resaerch on new ideas, and understand them. Can be stubborn when his beliefs are compromised and doesnt like to agree to disagree. Doesnt like to talk so much about himself deeply, and he likes to mirror others.



And on the F side: He cares deeply about people and will say so. He is involved in helping a lot in charitable organizations. He can see peoples needs and try to fulfill them through advice or sympathy. He also likes to buy me gifts. He gives affection to kids. He considers himself more heart centered, feels emotions (but doesnt show them so readily) and doesnt understand how his father didnt cry by his aunts funeral. He also relates well to people and wants them to feel comfortable and safe around him. He gives affection to kids and is known to be very warm. He would give the shirt off his back to people and intuitively understands others. He sends texts to me every morning saying How did you sleep, how are you feeling and has a sappy romantic side to him. Uses "in the mood" a lot. Is sensitive to others feelings and is tactful. Very careful not to hurt others, and in the midst of a strong discussion, can break off an say-You look pale. Are you OK? He resonates with peoples feelings.

Any answers, feedback, etc is appreciated!

I'll be moving this to a more specific section, if you don't mind.

A lot of what you describe on each side can be attributed to the other. For a basic answer, he sounds like an xxFP, as I know no more than that. Could you provide some more information about him in order to clarify the type?

Originally Posted by melissa85

Hello, all.This is my first time posting here, so here goes! I know I am an ENFJ, but my boyfriend who i have been seeing for 6 months is quite intruiging. I dont know his Enneagram type, but he has very strong 2w1 or 5, 6 so/sx.
I had him take the MBTI from the career assessment book, and while he was a little shaky on the E vs I and P vs J, he was pretty clear about answering all the questions according to the F standpoint (as opposed to T)
However, there are some T traits about him and I am wondering if hes an INTP, INFP, or INFJ.
(Though, since we have an intimate relationship, it could be that he may come across as a f to me-especially since he knows I like feelers-in a relationship)
On the T side: He values knowledge and information and is a great troubleSHooter. He is objective and sees all sides of the picture, and can debate his ideas if he feels strongly about them. He doesnt like systems like the enneagram, and will argue it to death since he feels people are too complex and varied to be boxed in, and is it scientifically valid? He works first, plays later. He also doesnt like when people dont "get" how to do something that is plainly obvious. He likes detail in questions that people ask him- alot of things are too vague for him (i.e.-do you feel fear shame or anger? do you have to be in the mood to do things? Are you present or future oriented-he will answer "depends" and needs more specifics.)When someone is very upset, he will calm them down first , listen and then give advice, usually seeing all points of view. He likes detail and is opinionated. He is skeptical-because he was burnt a lot in the past. He likes to do resaerch on new ideas, and understand them. Can be stubborn when his beliefs are compromised and doesnt like to agree to disagree. Doesnt like to talk so much about himself deeply, and he likes to mirror others.

And on the F side: He cares deeply about people and will say so. He is involved in helping a lot in charitable organizations. He can see peoples needs and try to fulfill them through advice or sympathy. He also likes to buy me gifts. He gives affection to kids. He considers himself more heart centered, feels emotions (but doesnt show them so readily) and doesnt understand how his father didnt cry by his aunts funeral. He also relates well to people and wants them to feel comfortable and safe around him. He gives affection to kids and is known to be very warm. He would give the shirt off his back to people and intuitively understands others. He sends texts to me every morning saying How did you sleep, how are you feeling and has a sappy romantic side to him. Uses "in the mood" a lot. Is sensitive to others feelings and is tactful. Very careful not to hurt others, and in the midst of a strong discussion, can break off an say-You look pale. Are you OK? He resonates with peoples feelings.

Any answers, feedback, etc is appreciated!

Okay, this is my guess but from what I'm getting he sounds like a INFP.
a good way of looking at it is that Ps and Js - Is that J are more leaders then Ps are.

Yeah, he sounds alot like myself; caring, quiet but can see all sides of a problem.
definitly an INFP

I agree INFP

I actually think INTP. His F side seems much more Fe than Fi. His T side sounds much more like Ti than Te. If he were an INFP it would be the opposite. Not to mention his T side is like everything my INTP ex was. He sounds like an INTP who has developed Fe well imo.