[kmamaji]

I would like to know how many of you prefer sex before marriage and how many prefer after marriage. I don't mind sex before marriage as far as she is going to by my life partner. Whats are your opinion?



Edit - I'm not allowed to edit my thread - Tittle, so its SEX not SEC

[Valdyr]

I don't care when you have it, have it whenever you like (within reason of course, no pedophilia please).

Note that I don't mean "you" specifically, it's the proverbial "you" referring to the reader of this post.

[wiarumas]

I don't believe in magic or fairy tales, nor do I see a point in following pointless traditional religious/societal norms, so I'm going to have sex with any sufficient and willing mate. I'm not for one night stands, but if I'm into a woman on a physical and personal level, I don't see why I have to declare my lifelong dedication to her before having sex. With that said, I'm now married to a woman and she will be the only one for the rest of my life. I believe in monogamy since it strengthens our relationship and family.

[Drea]

I would prefer both.

[nuttynanner]

Har! Love that answer, drea.

To your question, kmama...a girlfriend recently confided in me that she and her 1st husband only had sex once (on their wedding night) in the seven years they lasted. Turns out they had exactly zero sexual compatibility.

Everyone must answer this question for themselves. For me "once in 7 yrs" is just a tad too infrequent.

[nuttynanner]

Oops...I've aged out of this forum. Never mind the older gal!

[Tuttle]

My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. Nine years and three kids later, our sex life gets better and better every night.

[kmamaji]

Har! Love that answer, drea.

To your question, kmama...a girlfriend recently confided in me that she and her 1st husband only had sex once (on their wedding night) in the seven years they lasted. Turns out they had exactly zero sexual compatibility.

Everyone must answer this question for themselves. For me "once in 7 yrs" is just a tad too infrequent.

Don't you feel its too much for anyone to control. I mean how can you guys control over yourself, its difficult to believe that one couple couldn't sex for last 7 years. God! ask her why she don't allow you confirm that she's with you only or not.

[kmamaji]

Oops...I've aged out of this forum. Never mind the older gal!

Old Generations are not to be allowed in Generation Y, so stay in your area.

My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. Nine years and three kids later, our sex life gets better and better every night.

Happy married & sexual life.

[AddyBunny]

I think virginity is something very special to preserve, perhaps not until marriage, but definitely until you find a very very special person that you are positive deserves it. You get your virginity once, and if its given to the wrong person you may or may not regret it, but I find that theres probably nothing better I could give to a guy to show my complete dedication to him than that which I've denied any other guy I've had a relationship with.

I claim abstinence for this reason and more personal reasons, and I would very much like for my virginity to last until my wedding night and thus that is where my goal is.

Beyond being a symbol of dedication, it also proves willpower, self restraint, and discipline.

On the flip side, I'm not at all opposed to others being sexually open or to have more pansexual tendencies; to me its a personal inner conflict as well as a personal goal that shouldn't be pushed onto others of different mindframes or opinions