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Why do we all want relationships so bad?

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    Why do we all want relationships so bad?

    Why do we? Im trying to figure it out. Ive been on this whole self-actualization and ego awareness thing lately, and im making progress. I don't really want a long term relationship, and i don't see what the appeal is. Its like all these people always have to have a significant other in their lives at all times. Why?

    Is it because we like making somebody "ours"? We like "owning" somebody and having control over them and what the do? I don't want a girlfriend because i havent met a girl who i could be best friends with. And I really wouldn't want to control someone. Limit somebody from being themselves. The main purpose of marriage was making babies, it has changed so much since them...i find it interesting.
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    How does being in a relationship with someone limit their ability to be themselves?

    I simply enjoy caring for and about other people. In my eyes, love is a win-win situation for both myself and my beloved.
    Last edited by Lackjester; 04-14-2012 at 09:47 PM.
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    I think you might be looking at this from the wrong angle bud. Actually, being in a good relationship, inspires you to do more. At least in the case with me, it's enjoyable, nice to have someone there for you that you can count on.
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    Life is rather boring without anyone to share it with, whether it be a romantic partner or simply a lifelong friend.
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    Quote Originally Posted by donkeybals View Post
    I think you might be looking at this from the wrong angle bud. Actually, being in a good relationship, inspires you to do more. At least in the case with me, it's enjoyable, nice to have someone there for you that you can count on.
    Your right, i am looking at this from a more negative angle.

    But the question remains as to why it inspires you to do more? Im just curious on how relationships effect people. I havent taken a class about it yet haha, so i dont know. I know its a human need to feel wanted.
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    some people want a different type of best friend. A different kind of love that can't be given from an animal, family, platonic friends (bffs) and spiritual. The ONLY kind of love that someone who's just like you, have a few differences, but can love you in a way NO ONE else can understand. Not even yourself! While I can't speak for other people, this is the kind of love that I desire.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kyandigaru View Post
    some people want a different type of best friend. A different kind of love that can't be given from an animal, family, platonic friends (bffs) and spiritual. The ONLY kind of love that someone who's just like you, have a few differences, but can love you in a way NO ONE else can understand. Not even yourself! While I can't speak for other people, this is the kind of love that I desire.
    Interesting. I guess i just haven't come anywhere close to that, which is why im curious.
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    Quote Originally Posted by King_Moonracer View Post
    Your right, i am looking at this from a more negative angle.

    But the question remains as to why it inspires you to do more? Im just curious on how relationships effect people. I havent taken a class about it yet haha, so i dont know. I know its a human need to feel wanted.
    Haha, want to take a relationship class eh? Sounds interesting.

    Given, for this is for me, but some people might agree with it. And given, this is only for good relationships. I've been in relationships before, where I felt pretty crappy, and it made me want to do less.

    That said, I like to make people feel proud and happy. I don't know I like seeing people happy I guess, and it feels good to be happy with them. So it makes me want to keep doing good things lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by King_Moonracer View Post
    Why do we? Im trying to figure it out. Ive been on this whole self-actualization and ego awareness thing lately, and im making progress. I don't really want a long term relationship, and i don't see what the appeal is. Its like all these people always have to have a significant other in their lives at all times. Why?

    Is it because we like making somebody "ours"? We like "owning" somebody and having control over them and what the do? I don't want a girlfriend because i havent met a girl who i could be best friends with. And I really wouldn't want to control someone. Limit somebody from being themselves. The main purpose of marriage was making babies, it has changed so much since them...i find it interesting.
    It's largely due to the fact we miss God's love. Our hearts seek that love in this material world, in the form of romantic love. It's a poor substitute, but it's not all bad.

    There are other things too like sex drive.

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    Reasons why we want a relationship

    1) Security

    2) Affirmation, Validation

    3) Love

    4) Meaningful connection beyond superficial acquaintances and even beyond friendship which still has limited interaction despite being more meaningful then acquaintances

    5) Companionship

    6) The value of exclusive committment: which is a sign that of all the people out there you were the one that was picked and not only that but for a life time. The magnitude of such a commitment given the many alternatives available and the amount of time it requires, the fact that there is someone out there that will do this for you makes us feel cherished and appreciated in a way that transcends all other forms of flattery and validation

    Disclaimer: the ones who don't want a relationship probably don't see it through this sort of lense, it does not have the same meaning and hence is not sought after as much
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