Stating facts or subtle rejection?

crap crap, I mean information about himself, not yourself. Sorry. just woke up -_-

Okay I edited it, for some reason I thought I could only edit a post once. Sorry again.

Originally Posted by Vexed

I couldn't find a sociology forum



Both from the same person.

After getting this person's number:
"I only have 3-4 friends I actually hangout with and I dot use my phone a lot"

And while this person sharing personal stuff
Something along he lines of having too many friends makes him anxious in keeping up with all of them.


Past this, he hasn't been beating around the bush.

Is this a subtle rejection or someone stating the facts?

This is an a-hole type of person. I have had a few girls tell me this, and as it turns out they hung out with other new women friends. And, I just looked on in confusion, but later I brushed it off. I don't think you should worry about being friends with this person.

It sounds like this person doesn't want to be especially close to you at this time, whether or not the reasons given are sincere.

I'd suggest that you simply give them the space they seem to be needing, and perhaps their opinion on whether or not they want to have a closer interaction with you may change. Pushing them to be closer will likely only force them to pull away. Being resentful of their decision will only cause unnecessary tension, even if only within yourself.

Originally Posted by Nobleheart

I'd suggest that you simply give them the space they seem to be needing, and perhaps their opinion on whether or not they want to have a closer interaction with you may change. Pushing them to be closer will likely only force them to pull away. Being resentful of their decision will only cause unnecessary tension, even if only within yourself.

No matter their personality type or the situation this is good advice. If you must send them a reply, find a way to express your respect for their need for space or say that you understand (if you do) and finish with that you have time for them or would like to hang out if they want to. Keep it casual. Keep it minimal. Only one reply. Don't expect a response. Like Nobleheart said, they might change their mind or they might not. I've had both experiences.

@Vexed I got your PM, but I can't respond as I don't have enough posts yet. But i'm very interested in hearing the long story, as this post is a bit too short to derive anything too meaningful from. I'll try to make some quick comments here and there so I can respond in the PM ;p

At this stage, you're already starting to question him and don't seem very happy.

Sounds like he's not providing you something that you need/desire/want in a potential partner.

Whatever the excuses are, they are just excuses.

When two people click together and hit it off, wouldn't they more likely want to talk and naturally gravitate towards one another even in simple conversations?

He could be all depressed or dealing with the worst shit in his life, but if your being in his life isn't something he see's as a momentary bright spot, then why is he wasting your time with that attitude like k.i.t. is a burden?

I get the feeling that if he thought of you mutually the same, he'd more likely want to be a bit more.. enthusiastic.

Introvert + enthusiasm : error
At least if he is INTJ