My wife lost his dad some three years ago. At the time she was pregnant with our first child, and it had been a rough period with other deaths in the family as well.
Then later on, little by little she started having mood issues. Depression, but also anger issues and paranoia. Often times she has said that she believes that I'm trying to hurt her, which to anyone who knows me (and my wife definitely should!) seems absurd.
She's been seeing a psychiatrist for a while now, and at first it seemed like bipolar, but the doctor is also wondering how much of an effect never really grieving for her father has to do with it. He's thinking it might have a big part of it.
So my question is pretty broad, but I'm trying understand a little of the underlying psychology. I mean, how does her not grieving her father cause her to have explosive outbursts of anger, especially towards me?
Or is it simply the fact that when you're not feeling well, any little thing will bother you that much more? So, the lack of grieving led to depression, and then because she is not feeling well, I tend to get the brunt of it, since I'm usually there, and maybe even in some ways I'm safe to lash at.