while back i was watching some show on envy on the history channel that was very frustrating, but brought up some concepts i'm not that familiar with.
they mentioned some study (wish i had more details on it!!) where they asked people if they would rather work at a job making 50k a year when everyone else they worked with made 25k, or make 100k a year while everyone else made 200k. assuming the economy and value of the money is the same as now, and the jobs of all involved are identical. a significant portion (more than half) would prefer to make less money if it meant they were paid more than their peers. I personally thought that was bullshit, and immediately questioned the survey's validity - but others i told were not surprised by it.
some guy on there also mentioned that envy today is often about position and power, flaunting it or boasting is a display of that power, and since it incites envy it is at its heart an aggressive act.
a lot of this is puzzling to me, and i realized that i used to confuse jealousy with possessiveness.
so, what i want to know:
what is the difference between jealousy and envy?
what does jealousy and envy FEEL like?
assuming that survey is NOT flawed, what is behind the results?
what do you think of the idea that boasting is an act of aggression?
how often do you get jealous/envious, and what sparks it?
how long does it last - is it a state of being/position towards something, a momentary flare of emotion, or both?
not looking for any official definitions here, just your personal experiences and opinions. thanks !