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This is a discussion on Sexual abstinence and the psyche within the General Psychology forums, part of the Topics of Interest category; Originally Posted by DonCoryon I've read that serotonin decreases sex drive. However, I do not think that sex, or abstinence ...
I have a very healthy sex life without feelings of guilt or other negative emotions. I used to feel guilty for masturbating, but I believe that is a socially promoted view that is unhealthy. I had a long period of sexual abstinence, 3-4 months and the effects were tremendous, my mood stabilized and I felt more energy. Now I seem able to masturbate without negative mood swings or loss of energy. My body seems to have balanced itself to a good homeostasis.
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Feelings of numbness come from not being able to deal with underlying emotions properly, it is a natural self-defense mechanism which was constructed in order to retain as much energy as possible. The body and brain acts defensively always in its self-preservation. To go against the self-defense mechanisms is like trying to force a war on one's own body and brain. When one has feelings of numbness one can as you say enjoy other parts of life, in which I guess you mean sex as well. This however will not take away the underlying problems that exist in the mind and you will without much doubt fall back into feelings of numbness again after sexual release. Like Cover3 said it is a question of self-control. It is very human to struggle with self-control especially in regards to sexual abstinence as we are going against our primal drive which is one of the strongest forces we have in our psyche. The best answer I could give is to give sexual abstinence a go if you have mood swings or perhaps underlying untangled knots in the psyche which you are not aware of yet. If it has had no effect after 3-4 months I'd retract my statement of advising it.
Guilt is a powerful way for the church and historical society to imprint a sense of self-loss. That when we sexually gratify ourselves through masturbation we sin. There is no sin in masturbating as there is no sin in being gay. I left a bible study group, greatly offended on the debate of gay=sin. I'm not gay myself, but the church has a very relical view of normal sexual activity and I could not take that. Slightly off the topic with the example regarding homosexuality, but the point was made.
Good that you haven't felt any adverse effects of the sex or masturbation, it shows you're able to buffer the neurochemical effects of it. I used to get depressed or anxious before, after an orgasm, but that has gone. I am now completely at peace, always.
George Costanza was able to accomplish great things. I guess it works.