Introvert to ambivert (Or socially active introvert)

This may sound crazy, but as an introvert myself i've always spent time alone. No going out or anything. While my youth is right in front of me, I reckon it would be wise to spend more time in authentic friendships. I mean, the anxiety and social retard-ism is still there, but I remember what an ecstasy it is to go out during this one time of life where I didn't seem so self-absorbed and reflective. Is there any way to act in an extroverted sense? Not outgoing as such, I'd like to be the cool muso dude (Already am, minus the cool though), but with an array of social skills and knowledge on media/artists and all the things other people are into. Is there any way of gaining confidence and extensive knowledge on various subjects? I wish to talk more and be less reserved. The introspective habbits have gotten the best of me, I think it's time to get out of my fucking shell. Tips, Insight, Experience or remarks would be great. Just need someones wisdom to rub off and give me info on what I should have my nose in and knowing the social morals etc etc.

Hit me, I'm determined to change my ways.

People who won't accept you, eccentricities and all, probably aren't worth getting to know on a very candid level... You may worry that you're letting your INTJ nature have you be overly narcissistic and/or elitist, but the fact is a lot of people are just really boring and never actually define themselves in spite of the norm, and again, most introverted intuitives shouldn't waste their time on said people unless they have to.

If you really did want to become more socially able with the conventional people, the best means of doing so is actually just staying introverted, as that way you could be considered "one of the crowd", as said kinds of people disdain any real character... I'm granting some pretty grim advice and/or insight I know, but it's what I have to offer and no one else has even bothered to reply so take it or leave it.

If you want to be more socially active, it shouldn't be too difficult. Just strike up conversations with extroverts and they'll pretty much do all the work for you. Some extroverts are networking gold mines. You just have to find them, and you're bound to make tons of friends (maybe even some you can keep).

Hi Smokey-
What has helped me is getting involved in activites that I like. A little over 4 years ago I started yoga and martial arts, and have found some new friends via these activities and have social functions to go more often than I used to. I'm also thinking of taking up pottery. I think that if you open myself up to things that seem interesting to you, it's a good way to meet other like-minded individuals & it helps get you out there a little more.

Socially active introvert? I'm a socially inactive ambivert.

Being an introvert myself, I can say that very different methods need to be employed in order to achieve the same results as the extrovert. But, it is possible to succeed, in spite of the common stereotype given to the introvert. We definitely have our strong points. We just need to know how to recognize them and learn how to use them. Social skills will become more natural if you are persistent at practicing them. Then, when were done with that extrovert stuff, we can comfortably crawl back under our respective rocks. No, we don't really change.

Introverts get energy from being alone, which is great for emotions and art.
Extroverts get energy from socialising, which is also an equally good thing.

Each type can perfectly fine be the opposite thing, but won't benefit nearly as much from that, than being in their natural element.

Speaking from experience.

Originally Posted by Tobias Andre Andersen

Introverts get energy from being alone, which is great for emotions and art.
Extroverts get energy from socialising, which is also an equally good thing.

Each type can perfectly fine be the opposite thing, but won't benefit nearly as much from that, than being in their natural element.

Speaking from experience.

Ok what experience do you have being extrovert and each type?

Originally Posted by DarkSideOfLight

Ok what experience do you have being extrovert and each type?

With type, I meant either int/ext.
Being extroverted; mostly from parties, they can be really great, but will steal energy from me rather quickly.
Being introverted; from being alone, I can be alone and productive for ages until someone invites me to a party.

I like observing and interacting with other people.

Originally Posted by Tobias Andre Andersen

With type, I meant either int/ext.
Being extroverted; mostly from parties, they can be really great, but will steal energy from me rather quickly.
Being introverted; from being alone, I can be alone and productive for ages until someone invites me to a party.

I like observing and interacting with other people.

Being not seeing. Just to let you know the most artistic and way to fucking emotional people I know are ENFPs. Then again I wish I could drop the socializing part in my case and get drawn in my Ti, but it is impossible to get by without signs of depression. I have meaningless interactions just to recharge my batteries. Unfortunately, I cannot be perfectly fine introverting.

I think when you were writing about "natural element" it was in the context of introversion-extroversion difference, but speaking of types I had impression that you were talking about functions so just to make sure I cover all of it Ni and Te don't really work for me. Using/mimicking/shadowing those functions is worst then pointless.

Observing and interacting is one thing. Walking in someone's shoes is a different story. The point I make here is that all you can experience is JUST your own perception of what your senses are able to gather. I doubt you will be able to see the world with my eyes, which leads to one conclusion that experience on this side of power is not attainable for you.