Rate yourself 1 (never do this) to 10 (always do this) on each idea:
1. Emotionally Dependent- 7
The idea that we must have love and approval from all the people we find significant. Placing undue importance on what other people think of us.
2. The Perfectionist- 6
The idea that our personal worth is determined by our performance and achievement. We must always prove competent and flawless in order to be considered of value as a human being.
3. The Blamer- 3
The idea that when people act obnoxiously and unfairly toward us, they are Wrong and we should judge them and blame them.
4. The Catastrophizer- 7
The idea that when things don’t go our way, or when we’re frustrated, treated unfairly, or rejected, that we must view things as awful, terrible, horrible and a catastrophe.
5. Helpless- 3
The idea that emotional misery comes from external pressures and causes outsides ourselves.
6. The Worrier- 4
The idea that if something seems dangerous, fearsome, or threatening we naturally preoccupy ourselves with it, and should be anxious about it.
7. A Cop-Out- 5
The idea that life is easier if you avoid difficulties and challenges; that it is smart to leave responsibilities and self-discipline to others.
8. Stuck in the Past- 2
The idea that our past determines our present; that our past remains all-important, and because something once strongly influenced our lives, it still determines our thoughts, feelings, and behavior in the present.
9. Trapped in SHOULD- 3
The idea that people and things should turn out better than they do, and that we have a right to feel cheated and upset when people and things are not the way we believe or want them to be.
10. A Drop-Out- 6
The idea that the greatest happiness follows from the path of least resistance; that we can achieve maximum satisfaction by passively and uncommittedly “enjoying ourselves.”
11. Lack of Control- 6
The idea that we have virtually no control over our emotions and that we cannot help feeling disturbed about things.