This is a discussion on The stone heart. within the General Psychology forums, part of the Topics of Interest category; Originally Posted by Bear How do you think the one extreme of a hard heart compares to the other end... ...
This is somewhat off topic but I really listen more to an entj if he/she gives me a compliment or shows care in some way...compared to well...I dunno anyone. I think I like they actually mean exactly what they say....and do not exaggerate one bit. I feel like I can finally take this compliment seriously and not question "did they mean that?" "were they trying to make me feel better?". ...ya
So ...I dunno ...ya
No... this is exactly on topic. My original question was along the lines of permanence of a hard hearted person making room for you in their heart. Another aspect of that to me is most certainly the value of the sentiment. How much is something valued when it is given to everyone for free?
and it's not black and white, the mushy heart doesn't necessarily give to everyone for free, without it being earned. it's not really an accurate comparison, to say it's a small permanent space vs a free love free for all.
I believe it is possible to love many people uniquely without any of them being less special to the one who loves. This is the ideal, in fact, and something only God is truly capable of doing successfully, with total love and total awareness of what it is He is loving. In a romantic relationship, security comes from exclusivity, but even a person who is generally loving to everyone can choose to bestow the gift of security upon a single chosen one, who is then seen as part of the self as well as distinct from it.
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