Bad boys vs good boys

Good boys were okay in my 20s, but I got bored quickly. Bad boys have their place too. They are like "disposable men". A quick thrill.

I think it's similar "good girl" and "fun girl" for guys.

I want neither. People are too complex to be one or the other. If they are, they usually need to do some more inner growth.

Originally Posted by MisterJordan

The morale of this story, is to be confident and independent while remaining considerate and polite. Which might sounds like a contradiction...

EDIT: Basically, become a polite INJT, because that works for me.

Cool.. I think moral of the story is "be yourself." If you are yourself and the person that you are with cannot accept you for who you are for whatever reason, then it's not a match. That's how I view it.

Far too often, I see a tendency for people to think that they need to be less of a 'nice' person in order to attract one another, as seen through websites such as askmen.com and books like "the Game." I think it's really detrimental to potentially beautiful relationships that may grow when people ascribe to certain behaviors that are manipulative to attract potential partners.

I like the notion of being true to ourselves, because that's what happiness is all about.

Originally Posted by strawberryLola

Cool.. I think moral of the story is "be yourself." If you are yourself and the person that you are with cannot accept you for who you are for whatever reason, then it's not a match. That's how I view it.

Far too often, I see a tendency for people to think that they need to be less of a 'nice' person in order to attract one another, as seen through websites such as askmen.com and books like "the Game." I think ti's really detrimental to potentially beautiful relationships that may grow when people ascribe to certain behaviors that are manipulative to attract the opposite sex.

I like the notion of being true to ourselves, because that's what happiness is all about.

Well, as a cynic, I would say that a lot of people are uncomfortable with themselves, and seek quick fixes, such as askmen.com (which should only be used for it's semi-funny top ten lists) and not their methods on "How to approach women at [insert random location]" to each his own methods, you need to develop your own style, sometimes through brutal rejection.

However, I really like your optimism and poetic summation of this thread.

okay i have a question here? what is your true self? we learn who we are from the society we live in and i think if something is not working change it . For example if someone is having some problem solving a math question by using one method and another formula gives the quick answer so why not adopt it ?life is too short for i am not saying become a jerk just look at your mistakes .

Being true to ourself, to me, means to be comfortable with whom we are from within.. being honest with who we are, what we want, things that resonate from within..

The more genuine we are with ourselves, the more likely we are to attract and stay in long-term relationships with those who share a similar affinity as we do in life?

I think it's about compatibility. If I'm understanding this correctly-Quick fix solutions tend to box people up, furthering them away from truly happy unions.. Then again, it really depends on what each person is looking for- either a unique relationship, or something conventional? Neither are good or bad; depends on what we are looking for?

Sorry if I'm derailing!

hmm yup i think you are right.

Listen to strawberrylola, I'm not as good as her at wording things when it comes to relationships.

And, as an INTJ, it pains me to admit someone else does a better job than me...

ha ha ha well i think you do a good job too .

I believe most girls prefer the bad guys who are actually good guys.

I thought women liked men and not boys?
As for me? Depends on the person, mostly.