In response to a thread by mnemonicfx, I've started a new thread here to test a theory I proposed in his thread (What is with the amount of threads in specific forum of personality type?).
I started this thread in the INTJ forum three days ago (Female Social Behavior). It has since gone cold.
I am interesting in getting everyone's thoughts, so, please, discuss.
I read Rosalind Wiseman's book, Queen Bees and Wannabes, when my daughter was in middle school. I wanted to better understand the cliques and power trips she was likely to encounter as she began to mature.
Girl Cliques - The Roles Teen Girls Play
In my perpetual unpacking, I found the book again and flipped through it last night. I was struck by how the roles, designed around pre-adolescent and teenaged girls are just as applicable to adult women. I have encountered each of these roles in my work.Queen Bee: alpha female; popularity is based on fear and control; charisma, looks, money, will, force, manipulation; weakens ties between others for the sake of strengthening her own power baseCan you identify women in your life who fill one or more of these roles?
Sidekick: second in command; appears to be the Queen’s twin but has no real power on her own
Banker: keeper of the gossip; strategically dispenses tidbits to her advantage; can be as powerful as the Queen but does not publicly seek power
Floater: has friends in several groups and can freely move between them; good characteristics (attractive, intelligent, charismatic) but not enough to threaten the Queen; often has good self-esteem
Torn Bystander: caught between parties in conflicts; rationalizes the Queen’s behavior even knowing it is wrong; values access to the clique’s power more than her own principles
Pleaser/Wannabe: supports the Queen and Sidekick at all costs; desperate to fit in but does not want to be seen as trying too hard; often ends up doing the dirty work for the Queen
Target: victim of the clique; can be outside the group or inside; if inside the group, the status is likely the result of challenging the Queen’s power
Do you think these roles are more likely to be filled by a particular personality type?
What behaviors are most obvious in adult women that would slot them into one of these roles?
Are there other roles not listed here?