Are the things that we dislike in other people deep down the flaws we dislike in ours

-Are the things that we dislike in other people deep down the flaws we dislike in ourselves??

my mother is a type 4, she spends a lot of time judging and critisizing others, but when i listen to what she is actually saying, the things she hates in others are the qualities she posseses,, iam not really a critical person or a judgemental person, i believe we are all products of our environments and to judge one another is unfair, but in the past i have been known to be a tad judgemental, and looking back the things i disliked in others were the qualities i disliked in myself.

I would say so...in a way
The things I dislike in other people are things I try to avoid in but sometimes see hints of in myself
I wouldn't say it's as clear cut as that ...there are some things I dislike in other people that are basically the complete opposite of what I am

Probably. But thats makes us all hypocrites and I hate hypocrites so I am a hypocrite.

Originally Posted by Game Master Near

Probably. But thats makes us all hypocrites and I hate hypocrites so I am a hypocrite.

Not necessarily...I mean if it's a quality you're trying to dispel...And usually if it's somethign you're trying to dispel, it's not something that's very pronounced in yourself
I suppose only to some degree it could be considered hypocritical...but if you criticize someone for a particular trait and are careful with your words, it's definitely not hypocritical xD

I've heard of this idea, but I think it only applies in certain situations. For example, I have an aquaintance who I am forced to spend a lot of time with. He is 21 but acts like a little kid. He constantly makes annoying noises, sings loudly in public, talks and talks and talks and talks about himself or other information that no one asked about, and makes generalizations about the world that have no basis in reality but he refuses to consider for even a second that he could be mistaken. I think what bothers me most is that I know he has the potential to act mature and talk about meaningful things (because I've seen him do it), but he chooses not to do so. He is also aware of the fact that he drives people insane. The other day I was trying to help him become more self-aware by gently rebuking him, but he instead became defensive and told me that the things you dislike most about others are the things you dislike about yourself. I've been thinking about it since then, and I honestly do not do ANY of the things he does! Our personalities are so opposite it's ridiculous!! I think the main reason I get so annoyed is because I'm an introvert and when I don't feel like socializing he just keeps going at it, totally oblivious to the social cues I'm giving him!!! I wish I could figure out something deeper than that, but I really don't know...
Maybe when it comes to judging people's character, what you're saying applies. When it comes to simply being uncomfortable or annoyed by someone, maybe not?

Originally Posted by skogprinsessa

I've heard of this idea, but I think it only applies in certain situations. For example, I have an aquaintance who I am forced to spend a lot of time with. He is 21 but acts like a little kid. He constantly makes annoying noises, sings loudly in public, talks and talks and talks and talks about himself or other information that no one asked about, and makes generalizations about the world that have no basis in reality but he refuses to consider for even a second that he could be mistaken. I think what bothers me most is that I know he has the potential to act mature and talk about meaningful things (because I've seen him do it), but he chooses not to do so. He is also aware of the fact that he drives people insane. The other day I was trying to help him become more self-aware by gently rebuking him, but he instead became defensive and told me that the things you dislike most about others are the things you dislike about yourself. I've been thinking about it since then, and I honestly do not do ANY of the things he does! Our personalities are so opposite it's ridiculous!! I think the main reason I get so annoyed is because I'm an introvert and when I don't feel like socializing he just keeps going at it, totally oblivious to the social cues I'm giving him!!! I wish I could figure out something deeper than that, but I really don't know...
Maybe when it comes to judging people's character, what you're saying applies. When it comes to simply being uncomfortable or annoyed by someone, maybe not?

I think that's just him being and oblivious extrovert.

I've found I do it sometimes, but not that often (mainly towards my mum because we have similar character flaws). I've noticed other people do it too i.e. a friend of mine was hiding his problems and accused me of doing so when I really wasn't.

I've had instances when people see me make some mistake once or think that I'm doing something which I'm not and they accuse me of doing it. The catch is they are doing that mistake all the time. I've heard this before thats for sure.

I typically dislike things that aren't like me... So no.

The things that we dislike are clue for who we are ... it's the same for that the things we like are clue for who we are.

IMO, if we can mention somebody faults/trait sometimes because we learn from our own experiences when we practice those by ourselves.

Not really true for me. I think being introspective makes a difference. The traits that I most hate about other people are traits that I have little or none of, so I cannot empathize with the flaw or weakness. The traits that I most hate about myself, I am normally lenient about in other people because I already have an intimate understanding of the weakness or need behind the flaw. There is an exception that I despise in myself and often in other people, and that is the expression of the Fi shadow.