Grudges, and hating people

What is your ability to hold a grudge against someone like? Are there individuals in your life that you cannot stand and hold passionately bitter feelings towards, or do you see yourself capable as such? Why do you think you are the way you are in that domain of your life, and do you rationalize it?

Speaking for myself, I know that it is extremely difficult for me to hold a grudge for someone, no matter how much they may have wronged me in the past. I am lenient and can forgive and forget with tremendous ease. I know that some other people like this have rationalizations for not hating anyone or holding grudges, but I do not this is something that I do deliberately or consciously - I have no ethical or moral justifications for not hating people; it's just how I am. Even if I were presented with good reasons to hate someone (itself a highly debatable phenomenon), I still probably wouldn't.

Nope, I don't hold grudges at all. I am very forgiving. In my view: holding a grudge is letting another person control a piece of you.

I don't necessarily hold grudges. It takes quite a bit to get me really upset with someone, usually I get annoyed and once my annoyance passed I'll forgive that person and go on with life. However I never forget...anything, even if it was something seemingly small and insignificant I'll remember what that person did to me and while I won't have bitter feelings towards that person I'll forever have my guard up. It takes a long time to build my trust and once its broken you'll never get it back. But that doesn't mean I won't joke around or be "friends" with you, I hate conflict...but I hate people walking all over me even more.

When I'm really upset with someone, they become dead to me. It's as if they don't exist. I'll rant and rave for a few hours and then I'll take a nap and bam. It's like I never met that person before. I'll be cold and indifferent, not on purpose...it's just how I am. If you've done something to hurt me (and it takes a lot to hurt me) then I want absolutely nothing to do with you. It's as if my entire being is allergic to you and subsequently I will avoid spending any time with you. Haha it's something that unnerves my family, how I can be warm and silly one moment and cold and indifferent the next.

I don't hate people though, never. Hate is too strong of an emotion to waste on someone who's done something to me. I simply push that person out of my mind and forget that they existed. That hurts them more than angry words and tears.

I try to hold grudges, but i usually can't xD
I mean if someone does something I might tell them that I really don't want to be around them...then that person comes back and we're friends again. It's really, really hard for me to hate someone...I mean highly dislike them (because hate is a strong emotion); I don't know if I can hold a grudge...I guess if someone betrays my trust perhaps, because I am a very trusting person and it would hurt if someone ever took advantage of that

And it's not ethical or moral things keeping me from holding grudges, it's mainly just how friendly I am. I think I may be pretty good at brushing things off anyway

I don't really have any grudges... I'm extremely frustrated with my ex because he isn't holding up his end of the divorce decree.... But I don't consider it holding a grudge. Once he finally follows through with his end of the deal I'll let it go and be done with him for good....

I really only hate one person, and that's because she's stabbed me in the back three times....and is still running around trying to talk trash about me... But in all honesty, more than anything I pity her. She has this desire to be accepted by everyone and it actually causes her to self-destruct a lot of the time...

I agree with mutton, by holding a grudge, you are letting that person control a piece of you....and in a sense, they win. Me, I wouldn't say I always forgive, but I do always forget.

I struggle with bitterness toward people. Sometimes it is a on and off again battle for me to forgive someone... not only because you forgive the person for the things they have done in the past. But also for the things they continually do to you on the daily basis. I'm trying to be a better Christian, so this is definitely a weak point for me... also pride is my downfall. I have to remind myself that everyone is equal...

I don't - can't - hold grudges. It's just not in my nature. Literally, somebody could treat me like a piece of garbage and the next day I would still be friendly towards them. No, this isn't to say that I'm a push-over or anything - I definitely wouldn't call myself that. I firmly believe that I can stand up for myself and put people in their places (I have had a couple of recent examples of this irl, but I won't get into it) - but what's the point? I don't want to be rude to another person unless I feel I absolutely have to.

Holding grudges, in my opinion, only adds to problems. It causes so much more stress, anger, bitterness, etc. Also, I have found that the best way to get back at a person is to show them that whatever they did/said to you didn't bother you in the least bit (even if it did).

Okay, don't want to get this too long. But seriously, no, I don't hold grudges. I don't hate anybody. There are a few people I wish hadn't done me the way they did, but that's all in the past, and if they were to come back around I would accept them... not quite sure I would trust them, but I would accept them.

A few years ago I would have said that there are good reasons to hold grudges, but now I just see it as pointless. Cliche as it may be, two wrongs def. don't make a right. Forgiveness is probably one of the hardest things to do, but I think the person being able to let go of any bitterness is probably doing themselves a favor, and being the better person in the end. I try to take all my decisions and actions, and think of the long term outcomes. Is something I am upset over today, going to still affect me a week, month or even a couple years from now? Twenty years? Most likely not. Let go of the past, and move on. Easier said than done though.

I decided to delete post containing rancid and hateful stuff.

I don't actively trying to get even, but if the chance come and it won't in any way negatively affect me, I probably would. Rather than hating, I remember. I remember what they did and accept that there's a good chance they'll do it again given the chance, so I might be more cautious and guarded when dealing with them, or cut them off completely (when the possibility they can contribute something positive in my life is close to none).

So I guess I forgive.. or grow to ignore, but I don't forget.