Good looking people that are insecure

Ever run across someone who is insecure but you would never have known? You look around and you think that everyone BUT that person should be insecure.... yet they have trouble with it. Why do you think this is? Seems in some cases the better looking you are the more you have to be insecure about.... in some cases. Perhaps it's the expectation and fear of letting down people when if people don't expect much from you .... you have less to be insecure about.... you can .... in a way..... not care as much about what other people think. This applies to both personality as well as looks. Thoughts?

Personally, I don't think I'm a knock out or anything like that when it comes to looks... But I've had many guys tell me I'm beautiful inside and out... Now, I know I have a heart of gold on the inside, but I don't always think it shines through.... So when someone tells me how great I am, I think they are just trying to be nice and make me feel better.

Part of my problem is I've made some bad choices in friends and boyfriends in the past.... And it seems with me when I'm told I'm not good enough and I'm ugly, it sticks with me a lot more than the positive things. I'm getting better though.... I finally took some time out for myself to address the things I didn't like about myself, and am finally in a better place mentally.

I certainly think you can be both physically attractive and insecure. There's a lot of different factors that influence someone's attractiveness, such as height, weight, age, skin/hair/eye colour etc.

I think there are a lot of reasons. First off you would be surprised how some beautiful people never get asked out. It's assumed by others that someone so beautiful must already have a partner, so nobody ever approaches them. For others, people can often be very jealous of their beauty. Thus they will pick out any tiny imperfection and blow it up making the person feel that a tiny issue is more of a problem then it really is. Others just have really poor self esteem and can't imagine themselves as desirable.

I hate to say it but when you look as good as I do it's hard to even feign insecurity. People just look at you and go "God DAMN that's a fine piece of ass, I wish I had his confidence"


.....
lol

Originally Posted by RighteousRob

I hate to say it but when you look as good as I do it's hard to even feign insecurity. People just look at you and go "God DAMN that's a fine piece of ass, I wish I had his confidence"


.....
lol

double thanks xD

Not being one that generally notices "conventionally attractive" people, I'm not sure I would pick up on this dilemma predicated on their looks.

Originally Posted by fn0rd

Not being one that generally notices "conventionally attractive" people, I'm not sure I would pick up on this dilemma predicated on their looks.

What about personality?

I think I'd more likely pick up on insecurity based upon how the person carries themselves or their body language.

Originally Posted by fn0rd

I think I'd more likely pick up on insecurity based upon how the person carries themselves or their body language.

Yea... true. But .... there are some people that don't give off that vibe or give it away in their body language. Once you get to know them.... they suddenly reveal it to you..... which I find odd for some reason. I suppose they may not be as aware of how insecure they are? ..... maybe they are with their mind but not with their feelings so it doesn't show as much.