Disappointed :(

I thought that PersonalityCafe "The place to discover yourself" would be a forum for open, fair and equal personal opinion and discussion.
I didn't think that people's opinions, however contradictory to others, could be blindly taken as personal attacks, thus making it possible for personal insults and retaliations because someone can't see another point of view.
I'm disappointed that just because someone thinks differently, feels differently and values different things they are openly attacked and treat differently because of their personality.
Unless someone has personally attacked you how is it okay to allow a personal attack in a moderated forum? And is the founder so unconcerned with fairness because the offended party is naturally confrontational? Or does he just rely on the moderators? I don't understand :(

Just because someone is expressive of things not deemed socially acceptable doesn’t make that person nasty it makes them different or interesting or just alternative, or playing devil’s advocate if you will.
If someone takes that opinion or point of view personal when it's not aimed personally (however antagonistic it’s perceived by the majority) is the one interpreting it’s problem surely. Why is everything seen as a personal attack when it's just an apposing view, strong ones at that? Are people so insecure that any alternative free thought is a threat?

And why care so much that they think or feel differently, what happened to free speech, each to their own and all that annoying but vital jargon that allows people to be themselves. Insulting someone because they think differently and outside the box is basically crap and although I appreciate it is common place in pretty much most people’s day to day life, I had hoped this forum would provide a refreshing alternative, that it would be guided and encouraged to be more open minded and fair in dealing with the varying personalities of individuals. I'm so disappointed; this forum is not what I hoped it would be.

I am not after an arguement, I am too depressed to engage in one but felt compelled to express my disappointment. I'm also painfully aware that humans are flawed and complex individuals (myself included) and that such matters are not that easy to assess, address and aim to rectify; but I do feel there are wider issues raised regarding the forum that are perhaps being overlooked.

I completely agree. However there's nothing wrong with letting someone know they've completely overstepped the line of what is considered good taste.

Kerry I would thank you three times but it wouldn't let me.

The debate forum should be the place for arguments and not general chat or any other forum.

Kerry for the sake of you not being disappointed.. i would do anything dear. Even attack you if you wish

Thankyou it was nice to know someone shares some of view points (:

Thankyou Zulban

I whole heartedly agree it's okay to express to someone that you feel they have over stepped the mark in what is considered good taste (within your own culture and peers) as unfortunately lots of people do indeed feel insulted on behalf of others etc but the way in which we choose to say that should be in the spirit of trying to avoid personal aggressive language.
Letting people know they are offending you and possibly others is great, especially as most people wish to create and promote pleasant atmospheres and good relations, but again we cannot and should not expect everyone to feel the same and attack them for not conforming. And if they are driven to not care for good relations etc but wish to push boundaries then why can't they, we only serve to encourage them further as they strive somewhat aggressively for alternative thinking.
The more unbending we are and aggressive in our defence the more they may feel inclined to continue.
Depersonalising issues and trying to be objective can be an eye opening and inspiring experience and can help us grow, some people use different methods to promote discussion, it does not make it less relevant and acceptable. But I understand that that is my personal view and not often shared.
I am equally easily offended when something hits a nerve but I try very hard to ask myself why and am open to the feelings and sentiments other peoples opinions evokes. I often fail but I try. That is why places like this are great avenues for self development as we are able to discuss, share, privatley reflect and process and then share again in our own time frames without fear of mocking, judging and attacking from people you still have to work/socialise with. I would hope that an external objective source would moderate in this way bearing in mind the PersonalityCafe slogan. But I could be way off ..I'm still learning
I don't know how attacking me would alleviate my disappointment, but I appreciate the thought ..perhaps an attack would be beneficial in helping me analyse my own issues though

I was joking, uhm, i mean playing.. lol,, ENFP

I was unsure but thought you might have been
good play -was thought provoking (even if unintentional)

Also know that some people in the internet love to torment others or see how they react. It is not always about freedom of speech or ideas. They love causing trouble. If you look upon the history of how they act, you would certainly have a different opinion.