'Deep' conversation or intellectual stuff...

How many of you struggle with it, and what is your type?

I sometimes can engage in it and other times I feel 'what's the point?' I see some intellectual posts on this forum, which is great though I really find it hard to be motivated to read anything that is that difficult to grasp. I tend to what things simple, that's not to say I don't enjoy reading challenging material I just feel that most of the time, it isn't... dare I say... needed or even essential?

Anyone else have this line of thinking? or feel this way?

I don't struggle with it, but I do share your main point of view:

I just feel that most of the time, it isn't... dare I say... needed or even essential?

It's sounds like a horrible thing to say, but I do think it's true. ENFJ, by the way, which means that wonderful Fe is in charge. While I may find the intellectual and esoteric to be very interesting my Fe keeps grabbing me and say "yeah, so what does this have to do with helping others? How is this conversation making a difference?"

Plus, I don't like being too serious.

It's funny how I feel almost exactly the opposite. I don't see much point in casual conversations and small talk, I find them bit of a waste of time. I get bored of them quite easily.. But I absolutely love engaging in "deep" conversations with others but unfortunately my friends are not that enthusiastic about them. My ISFP-friend has to put up with a lot of my monologues but I just can't help myself

Originally Posted by Kaarna

It's funny how I feel almost exactly the opposite. I don't see much point in casual conversations and small talk, I find them bit of a waste of time. I get bored of them quite easily..
I absolutely love engaging in "deep" conversations with others but unfortunately my friends are not that enthusiastic about them. My ISFP-friend has to put up with a lot of my monologues but I just can't help myself

Yeah it's not that I prefer small talk it's just I would rather talk for ages about a band I'm currently into then say the theory of some new black hole theorist and how it relates to string theory. If I want to know that stuff I go to library. I got some friends that expect me to say something deep and meaningful about life and it's connection to the universe and everything, and I used to, though I don't care so much now, and when my friends asK I keep my answers simple.

My ISFP friend and I have taken a turn around I used to talk a lot and he would listen, now I feel we are pretty equal and enjoy a bit silence in between our conversations, I also hear him a lot more now then I did, because he is quite happy to just listen like me and not really start a conversation, just take it all in.

Non-intellectual talk does not automatically mean small talk. You can still have real, even very serious, conversations without them being intellectual.

Originally Posted by mutton

Non-intellectual talk does not automatically mean small talk. You can still have real, even very serious, conversations without them being intellectual.

Yeah I totally agree with this.

Originally Posted by mutton

Non-intellectual talk does not automatically mean small talk. You can still have real, even very serious, conversations without them being intellectual.

About pancakes? :D

Pancakes are good.... (imagine tone of voice inflection)

I like such conversations, but I'm selective of the subject I will discuss. I won't talk about something deep just for the sake of it: if it has no meaning for me, I'm not going to waste my time.
Most of the time I avoid talking about those subjects with people I do not know well. My ideas tend to come out in a not so logical way when I'm nervous, so my point doesn't come across.

Originally Posted by Haruhi Suzumiya

About pancakes? :D

I have deep, meaningful conversations about pancakes almost everyday. Who doesn't?