Hard To Forgive

Its really hard for me to forgive someone who has hurt me.

I forgive, but I never forget.
I don't hold it against them, but I find it nearly impossible to trust them again.
Takes quite a while to earn my trust in the first place.
After it's damaged it's never the same.

Meh. Everybody screws up. I forgave a friend a really shitty thing she did and a year and a half later I messed up a bit (by accident), she was quick to forgive me. It made our friendship stronger.

Forgiving others is easy.. especially if I care about them

forgiving myself.. that is another story

I find that most of the time I can forgive pretty easily, but forgetting is another story. And there is a certain limit on how many times I can forgive someone.

I forgive pretty easily. Sometimes I wish I didn't, but otherwise I think it's a pretty decent thing to be able to forgive others - we all make mistakes. I don't ever forget though - and the same mistake continuously made is a big no no.

Korvyna,
The key word is to for get, I just cant for get when someone hurts me no matter what they say or do.
thats not right but that just me.

Originally Posted by Renee22

Korvyna,
The key word is to for get, I just cant for get when someone hurts me no matter what they say or do.
thats not right but that just me.

It is understandable though. I have a hard time forgetting things sometimes. I gave a guy three chances... And all three times he hurt me... In the same way... I was finally fed up and done. His apologies meant nothing to me. It was just words he said to make himself feel like he wasn't a bad guy.

If you have been hurt, I believe it would be perfectly normal to have a hard time forgetting. I've never found it to be an immediate thing, it always takes time... Sometimes even months for me to forget.... And even after a year, sometimes I have a really hard to letting go of certain things.

Really? Because I find it hard to get and stay angry at a person. Instead, I have a habit of turning it inward. That's what depression is: anger turned inward.

Pinkrasputin,

I didnt know that anger turn inward was depression.
thanks for telling me.