I would consider my living situation to be one filled with negativity. Ive noticed a trend in the way people around me argue and i would like some imput.
Basically what i have noticed is that rather than ask someone a question and take what they say, and process it, people are accusing and then based on your defense to their statement, they decide if their thought is correct. It doesnt have to even be an important thought. For example:
person 1) "you never load the dishwasher"
person 2) "i loaded it yesterday and friday too"
person 1) satisfied with response moves on to another topic
I guess what i dont understand is why initiate the conversation with an accusation rather than mentioning that they would like you to "load the dishwasher" or whatever the issue may be? (no this is not an actual scenario) I have noticed that i even have taken on these immature tactics with others whom then get very defensive and hurt. I dont want to resort to this kind of behavior. Is there a way, when confronted this way, to bring the conversation to a healthy point without deflecting?