[Brian1]

If my partner,but anyone really, doesn't come to me and talk to me about what troubles them, I won't self analyze, if they have a problem with me, and almost 98% when I was in a relationship, no one did come up to me. I was with an N crowd...so it was naturally difficult.

[Muxoe]

I often think about how the relationship can be 'improved' between me and my INFJ partner.

However I am lucky in that we have come to a good understanding of each other and where each others flaws and strengths are. I wouldn't really call it 'improving' a relationship - it doesn't make us love each other any more than we do. It's more like 'working' on the relationship so that it can be healthier.

If anything we both work equally hard to understand each other and the important thing to remember in any relationship is each partner makes compromises; there is no perfect relationship. It's also understanding that sometimes those compromises can be different for either side, so do not always appear equal. But infact, most healthy and balanced relationships will find they do both compromise equally, it only feels like it can be one sided because your own personal perspective tends to take over.

Good points. I find the same to be true with me and my INFJ partner.

[Nessie]

If my partner,but anyone really, doesn't come to me and talk to me about what troubles them, I won't self analyze, if they have a problem with me, and almost 98% when I was in a relationship, no one did come up to me. I was with an N crowd...so it was naturally difficult.

Thanks. I take note of that. In fact Im not part of N crowd, but sometimes happens with me that I believe people could read others with more ease than they really could. And that they "must" know X or Y about others, me including. Finally appears that its not the case...

[AzNova]

I had a man who kept telling me I needed to improve to make our relationship better every time I fixed one thing he found something else to nit pick about, I put up with it for 7 years. I improved, he didnt. He had the audacity to act surprised when I left him and said "trust me its you not me"
There was a moral to this story, but Im an INFP and I forgot what it was. Enjoy!