Spare us from your friends? Im afraid I understand :DESTP's are always out and about. They won't hang around and do nothing. They will fix things for you and do projects however. I had the idea that I was just never entertaining enough for the ESTP. He was into sex, renting videos, work, and going out with his friends. I was all for the sex, work, into some of the videos (he only wanted action flicks), and I dreaded his friends...a cacophony of his worst traits in one noisy, drunken place (save me!). (I'm the type who brings a classic novel to sporting events and parties, gets a drink and settles in for the duration.) I do look up to meet someone or when he says to watch the game because the bases are loaded. I wish ESTPs would try to understand INTJs better. INTJs have much to offer: we aren't Feelers at least, we are faithful, we are not spenders, you know where to find us (home or work or in-between...maybe the bookstore), we cook for you and will do your laundry. However we expect you to: do the dishes, all 3D projects, help (alot) with things like vacuuming and general pickup, we need to get motivated and have company for such hideous activities, let us get a maid, let us rent a different video and watch ours beside you as you watch your bloodbath flick, and spare us from your friends...we barely think you are fun, so much less your friends. But we can really like you, love you and be very attracted to you, so give it a try. You will admire our degrees, intellect and wisecracks. Okay, I'm done. Hope this helped.