[johnnyBuz]

here is a simple diagram of how i view friendships and acquaintances

the black circle represents my life from birth to death.

the red circle represents someone that i remain friends with for my entire life.

the other circles represent various people i've "met along the way" that played some role in my life. maybe childhood, highschool or college friends.

some circles are larger and play a more prominent role in your life while others are smaller and were only in your life for a very short window. in reality there would be hundreds if not thousands of circles of various size.

and each of those circles would have their own set of circles for people that played roles in their lives. it was just something i thought about when high a couple months back about how to visualize all the people i have come to meet and know in my life.



like i mentioned in my last post, many many acquaintances but few true life long friends. i guess i'm kind of a drifter eh.

[Alvarez]

I meet a lot of people busking, so like expressed earlier in the thread, it becomes difficult to remember everyone's name. However, I'm not a huge extrovert - I like keeping in small groups of 4 or 5, even though I'll sometimes have 4 separate groups of 4 or 5; I'm not a big fan of huge groups or parties (I only like them for the activity; I hate lounge parties)

i also hate short sentences

For me, friendship is about participation. I don't really care if my friends ask about feelings I don't have or my personal life (though I do understand that that's often how people express friendship); for me, friendship means doing things with people. Literally whatever: movies, rock-climbing, playing music, anything. But I don't really like smalltalk (which I only recently realized, because I've always hated it, but I've also always been good at it, which is confusing), and activities are a great way to bond without it. It's also substantially more meaningful than smalltalk.

[Derosa90]

author robert greene. good book although i've only read through about half of it. i need to finish it off. i wonder if all ESTPs are procrastinators?

anyway, on friendship ....

i would say i have hundreds of acquaintances but few true 'friends' that i trust completely 100% and would bend-over-backwards for.

loyalty is probably the #1 trait that stands out to me, perhaps because it is the trait i project the most. if you are my friend, i am loyal to you until the end.

and yah i am horrible with names. too many times i have the "hey man what's up?" conversation because i remember faces, conversations we had, etc. but never their damn name !

would you ESTPs say you have more acquaintances then friends? an acquaintance is really just a stranger i meet once that turns into seeing him/her again at some point in the future, then again, and again until it becomes almost like a friend but not-quite.

I would definitely say I have more acquaintances than friends. I was the most popular person in high school. Granted it was small and had only 400 kids, but that's not too bad eh? I knew everyone by name and they all knew me. I would hang out with them at parties and shoot the shit. But beyond that, I never really did too much with them. I only had 2 or 3 true friends throughout high school and I've lost interest in them a while ago because of differences. It doesn't bother me much because I know I don't need that social closure all the time. I'm fine with just having my family for the time being.