[Norway88ESTP]

I`ve come to the conclusion of that I am very afraid of being left alone in this world. The thot strife me as allways when I am alone. I wonder if this is my greatest fear, cuz i think abute it all to mutch. Is this normal for ESTP? Is this are living fact that if we do not get energized by people we sinck into are minds and think abute the negativ? And when its all boyled down, are we afraid of being left alone?

[njchick]

I`ve come to the conclusion of that I am very afraid of being left alone in this world. The thot strife me as allways when I am alone. I wonder if this is my greatest fear, cuz i think abute it all to mutch. Is this normal for ESTP? Is this are living fact that if we do not get energized by people we sinck into are minds and think abute the negativ? And when its all boyled down, are we afraid of being left alone?

I would think a fear of abondonment comes from an unmet need as a child or a dependency, just like any other dependency. Does each personality lean toward certain dependencies? Very interesting question.

I am not particularly afraid of being alone so I don't know if it's the same across the board for us ESTPs. I almost feel the opposite. If my husband left, it would hurt but I am perfectly capable of moving on.

[Norway88ESTP]

I would think a fear of abondonment comes from an unmet need as a child or a dependency, just like any other dependency. Does each personality lean toward certain dependencies? Very interesting question.

I am not particularly afraid of being alone so I don't know if it's the same across the board for us ESTPs. I almost feel the opposite. If my husband left, it would hurt but I am perfectly capable of moving on.

Hmmm, interesting but I am not refering to being afraid of moving on after a break up or annything like that. I think whot im afraid of is more of not having anny one to cear for me or look after me. To give me that understanding that one can only find in parents or a long term relationship. Since I am a ESTP and im allways talking and putting my self in sight for people. People never see the real me for the one I am, and people often tend to think that "whot they see is whot they get". And whot thay see isent a wery good partner (often). I think whot is worring me is that I make it hard for my self to let anny one inn on me on a deeper side. And then making people act cold towards me or me cold towards them.

But of cours im still young and stupid and got alot of time whit this, but its so frustrating that I go from super happy (when im working and are whit other people) to go to super deepresst (when im alone).

Whers the manual on this head of mine....

[spcecadet08]

I hear ya on that one! Negative thoughts always fill me when I'm alone.. which is a lot unfortunately. I do feel enlightened when at work with alot of coworkers I like.. although it still is work!

I've never had a serious relationship, and still live with my parents.. I try to keep telling myself I'll have something more to live for one of these days

I do fear being alone, and can only hope that a special someone comes along soon =).. hate having all these negative thoughts!

[thegirlcandance]

Hmmm, interesting but I am not refering to being afraid of moving on after a break up or annything like that. I think whot im afraid of is more of not having anny one to cear for me or look after me. To give me that understanding that one can only find in parents or a long term relationship. Since I am a ESTP and im allways talking and putting my self in sight for people. People never see the real me for the one I am, and people often tend to think that "whot they see is whot they get". And whot thay see isent a wery good partner (often). I think whot is worring me is that I make it hard for my self to let anny one inn on me on a deeper side. And then making people act cold towards me or me cold towards them.

But of cours im still young and stupid and got alot of time whit this, but its so frustrating that I go from super happy (when im working and are whit other people) to go to super deepresst (when im alone).

Whers the manual on this head of mine....

"Where's the manual?" Omg you kind of sound like an INFJ when I read this.
Feel like you need a manual for your head? Feel like people never see the real you? Feel like you make it hard for yourself to let anyone in on the deeper side?

This sounds SO much like a side of me its scary. Oh, it is so interesting to learn about ESTPs because you guys have more in common with us INFJs than we both realize!! We appear as total opposites on the surface, but deep down we have many of the same struggles.

[lalalalalalalala]

I'm pretty sure this is a human thing...

[Norway88ESTP]

Hmmm dont think all humans do think of it as a fear. I know a few people ho do not value the same concern at all. For instance a "ISTP" friend of mine. Think its to easy to just put the same problem on all of mankind. But in deed no one wants to be alone in the very end, but if they see it as a fear or a need is the question...

[thegirlcandance]

Hmmm dont think all humans do think of it as a fear. I know a few people ho do not value the same concern at all. For instance a "ISTP" friend of mine. Think its to easy to just put the same problem on all of mankind. But in deed no one wants to be alone in the very end, but if they see it as a fear or a need is the question...

Agreed. For instance, my ISFP ex's biggest fear was always "fear of failure", but he never said he had a "fear of being alone"... like I, an INFJ, do.

[MGill]

Hmmm, interesting but I am not refering to being afraid of moving on after a break up or annything like that. I think whot im afraid of is more of not having anny one to cear for me or look after me. To give me that understanding that one can only find in parents or a long term relationship. Since I am a ESTP and im allways talking and putting my self in sight for people. People never see the real me for the one I am, and people often tend to think that "whot they see is whot they get". And whot thay see isent a wery good partner (often). I think whot is worring me is that I make it hard for my self to let anny one inn on me on a deeper side. And then making people act cold towards me or me cold towards them.

But of cours im still young and stupid and got alot of time whit this, but its so frustrating that I go from super happy (when im working and are whit other people) to go to super deepresst (when im alone).

Whers the manual on this head of mine....

I feel you brother, this sounds A LOT like me. not the fear of not having anyone to look after me, but that people see me in a different way than I really am. And yeah when I'm alone I get those same negative thoughts its like a different state of mind all of a sudden, so what I usually do is distract myself with the TV or the Laptop the whole entire time.

[Mike Ice]

its funny cuz i love being with ppl and hate being alone, but I also hate making attachments to them....