[Norway88ESTP]

its funny cuz i love being with ppl and hate being alone, but I also hate making attachments to them....

Well said :)

[calysco]

I`ve come to the conclusion of that I am very afraid of being left alone in this world. The thot strife me as allways when I am alone. I wonder if this is my greatest fear, cuz i think abute it all to mutch. Is this normal for ESTP? Is this are living fact that if we do not get energized by people we sinck into are minds and think abute the negativ? And when its all boyled down, are we afraid of being left alone?

Type and the hidden agenda

"ENTp, ESTp => to be loved "

Well, according to socionics, an ESTP's secret desire is to be loved and coupled with this tidbit from this website:

http://www.personalitypage.com/ESTP_per.html

"When alone or in reduced circumstances may be subject to dark or morbid feelings about themselves."

I don't think it's terribly surprising that you fear being alone, I think it's quite natural for ESTPs.

I think the only way to combat the fear of being alone is having such an incredibly strong friendship/relationship that whenever you think about the other person, you immediately have warm and fuzzy feelings inside. :3 Basically, by knowing that the other person will never reject you and has a complete understanding of you, you'll know that you'll never be lonely in the world because you have a friend out there who cares about you! :D

For instance a "ISTP" friend of mine. Think its to easy to just put the same problem on all of mankind. But in deed no one wants to be alone in the very end, but if they see it as a fear or a need is the question...

My ISTP friend is also the same way- when I asked him what he would do if he couldnt find a girl, he answered that he didnt mind and that he wouldnt mind dying alone. Incredible! @___@ (I wish I was like that)

[Norway88ESTP]

Type and the hidden agenda

I think the only way to combat the fear of being alone is having such an incredibly strong friendship/relationship that whenever you think about the other person, you immediately have warm and fuzzy feelings inside. :3 Basically, by knowing that the other person will never reject you and has a complete understanding of you, you'll know that you'll never be lonely in the world because you have a friend out there who cares about you! :D

Its so true, I have a friend like that but its just that I dont want to be needy of others hahaha

[calysco]

Its so true, I have a friend like that but its just that I dont want to be needy of others hahaha

Yeah- to be honest, I hate the fact that I need other people as well. However, I've come to reluctantly accept that I need them to remain sane haha.

Also, there's a difference between being needy and not being needy.

Needy is: You feel absolutely insecure and you're always constantly wanting reassurance and wanting to talk to the other person. And even if the other person treats you like crap, you still need them. And clingy onto them. And don't give them room to breathe. You're always demanding their time and so on.

Not being needy: You understand that the other person also has their own life going on and you give them space if they need it. However, at the same time, you understand that the other person cares about you and is willing to help you out whenever you need it even if they aren't always physically there. It's the knowledge that the other person cares about you to this degree that combats the fear of being alone. :)

[Functianalyst]

Type and the hidden agenda

"ENTp, ESTp => to be loved "

Well, according to socionics, an ESTP's secret desire is to be loved and coupled with this tidbit from this website:

ESTP Personal Growth

"When alone or in reduced circumstances may be subject to dark or morbid feelings about themselves."

I don't think it's terribly surprising that you fear being alone, I think it's quite natural for ESTPs.

I think the only way to combat the fear of being alone is having such an incredibly strong friendship/relationship that whenever you think about the other person, you immediately have warm and fuzzy feelings inside. :3 Basically, by knowing that the other person will never reject you and has a complete understanding of you, you'll know that you'll never be lonely in the world because you have a friend out there who cares about you! :D



My ISTP friend is also the same way- when I asked him what he would do if he couldnt find a girl, he answered that he didnt mind and that he wouldnt mind dying alone. Incredible! @___@ (I wish I was like that)

Maybe I am confused about what is being considered alone. Are you meaning by yourself? Is this the same when you're active and doing things autonomously? I know that as an extraverting type, ESTPs can be comfortable around people but do they truly need them around all of the time? This is important to me, because I considered myself ESTP long before I determined I was ISTP. However the whole people thing is not me. Does posting on a forum count as contact with people, or does it have to be real life people?

[calysco]

Maybe I am confused about what is being considered alone.

Well, it seemed from his posts that he equated being alone with being lonely so I just used the word alone. What I really meant was lonely.

Are you meaning by yourself? Is this the same when you're active and doing things autonomously? I know that as an extraverting type, ESTPs can be comfortable around people but do they truly need them around all of the time? This is important to me, because I considered myself ESTP long before I determined I was ISTP. However the whole people thing is not me. Does posting on a forum count as contact with people, or does it have to be real life people?

As for the rest of your questions, since I can't categorize myself as an ESTP (well..yet. I'm still trying to figure myself out), it's probably best if OP answers these.