[Adventure]

Be prepared to be made fun of and laught at it, that's pretty much what you will do.

[Charmer]

To relate to an earlier post, it did take me a while to "ripen" up. In the beginning of my relationship with my girlfriend, I behaved pretty witty and charmy. I was extremely romantic. I'm no jock or "asshole", but I wanted to stray far from clingy or desperate. She was a complete night person (Both INFJ's I know are night people... is that a thing?), and I pretty much disregarded it; whenever I was tired, I would just tell her a good night and go to sleep. This may not seem relevant, but you'll see what I mean.

As we grew closer, I thought about a lot of things. I really felt attached, emotionally. I, however, was uncomfortable telling her. Again, this might have to do with a sort of "ego" thing. We sometimes compromised; she's sensitive and loving, and says that she also can't express how much she loved me in action or words. We were pretty much both emotionally attached, but neither were willing to express it.

Eventually, I spilled everything out about how much I loved her. She didn't respond in the same way, but I knew she saw what I meant and that she felt the same about me. It felt good because I finally got to tell her my true feelings. No more playing cool. I was able to be who I really was; the loyal, caring, and loving person I had always aspired to be. Then that's when I was able to be comfortable and "cute" with her: chatting with her all night long even when I had a really big test the next day, etc.

So that's pretty much my story. I've read quite a bit about ESTP relationships and all I have to say is that, it's really unpredictable. Some ESTP's do have a very strong emotional side, and they're one of the best at that sort of attachment. On the other hand, I've read read the stereotypical jocks. I believe the variance is based off of just nature and background, aside from MBTI.

[cyamitide]

How do they normally act when in a relationship with someone? What does it mean/how does it feel to be in a relationship?

Too much variation to tell, like ESTP 7s are playful when courting while ESTP 8s are more direct and assertive. According to socionics both ESTPs and ISFPs have aggressor erotic style and are in relations of supervision where ISFP supervises ESTP.

[DJArendee]

Too much variation to tell, like ESTP 7s are playful when courting while ESTP 8s are more direct and assertive. According to socionics both ESTPs and ISFPs have aggressor erotic style and are in relations of supervision where ISFP supervises ESTP.

I think for 8's though that supervision might be considered a good thing. It somehow makes the ISFP look tough and of equal value. ISFP's are my #2 favorite relationship personality and I've never had an ISFP criticize me or any of that stuff typically associated with supervisory relationships, except for a slight misunderstanding between Fi and Fe.

[itsme45]

Too much variation to tell, like ESTP 7s are playful when courting while ESTP 8s are more direct and assertive. According to socionics both ESTPs and ISFPs have aggressor erotic style and are in relations of supervision where ISFP supervises ESTP.

Forget trying to relate socionics stuff to MBTI stuff, it's different systems, describing things differently with different theory principles. Also, socionics assumes way too much about interrelationships, the actual correlations are too weak.

[maenad]

Holla. I have an xSTJ friend and whatever I say to her, she hardly gets mad (and if she does, I've got her laughing in two seconds). However, anyone else come along and say the exact same things, she'll chew your fucking head off.

I'd say in any relationship, we're very charming. Said friend once mentioned that if I'd been a guy, she'd be all over me. Weirdly enough, this isn't the only friend who's said this. Apparently most of my female friends would've wanted to get in my pants, if what was in there had been constructed a bit differently (or perhaps if we all swung a different way).

Blahblah, playful really hits the nail on the head though.

You have friends fall for you? I've had that happen and have had many cry over me. But I kind of like the fact that I can turn friends into lovers, if i end up caring alot about the girl.

[demonicgod92]

Lots and lots of gifts

[DJArendee]

I like to spread rumors about her and watch as she sorts them out. I also like to tell her she's a "ho ass bitch." When she's done crying I use her tears as lube. If she doesn't cry, then she's my type.

[itsme45]

I like to spread rumors about her and watch as she sorts them out. I also like to tell her she's a "ho ass bitch." When she's done crying I use her tears as lube. If she doesn't cry, then she's my type.

So how many girls out of 10 will pass this test?

[Iseoxe]

Holla. I have an xSTJ friend and whatever I say to her, she hardly gets mad (and if she does, I've got her laughing in two seconds). However, anyone else come along and say the exact same things, she'll chew your fucking head off.

I'd say in any relationship, we're very charming. Said friend once mentioned that if I'd been a guy, she'd be all over me. Weirdly enough, this isn't the only friend who's said this. Apparently most of my female friends would've wanted to get in my pants, if what was in there had been constructed a bit differently (or perhaps if we all swung a different way).

Blahblah, playful really hits the nail on the head though.

Yepppp, basically this. I can say the most baseless, off-the-wall b.s. just to get people to laugh, and they would start sharpening the knives if someone else said it. Despite the fact that I tend to be reserved, when I find a solid block that I feel comfortable in, I end up making every single person laugh their pants off at my idiocy, and find direct ways to include anyone who's being a party-pooper in it too.

And generally, my female friends have said the exact same thing. Except, you know, one was bisexual in the first place and didn't have much to say in regard to it except if I would be more interested in her if I was a dude (to which I answered 'no, probably not'). She was disappointed (is this another ESTP thing, not really caring about people's reactions to what you say?), but in about three seconds I had her laughing again so it was all forgotten.