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  1. #141
    Unknown Personality

    2011217,

    i have to say that none of what was posted by the example of the ESTP male and INFP female holds true in my experience. My friend and I both tested in MTBI but I feel the socionomics description of Dual holds true for us. I haven't taken the socionomics test. Still, I would never test as an INFJ, I'm sure. My friend and I don't engage each other's weaker vulnerable functions. We understand one another and deeply trust one another. This doesn't mean that there haven't been misunderstandings, but they have quickly been resolved, as with a Dual couple. I have a boss who is a conflictor and we can only be polite to one another. He's an ISTJ. Neither one of us can predict the actions of the other and we can only discuss superficial matters for a short period of time. My ESTP and I loved to see one another and to talk, sometimes for hours. The only distress between us came from outside influences that we had no control over. Even then we remained true to what we knew was the intention of the other: love and friendship and a romantic bond we couldn't yet talk about.

  2. #142
    ESTP - The Doers

    My INFP friend is the opposite sex and I would never love him in a romantic way, I just can't see that happening. Although, we are very close and get along super well. I don't understand him all the time, like how he talks about ''abstract magical cracks in the tiles'' and I am like ''uh whatta?'' but it doesn't annoy me, I think it's funny XD We're just very comfortable with each other and get along perfectly.

  3. #143
    ESTP - The Doers

    In general I've gotten along well with feeling types, or people who have well developed feeling functions. I would have to be careful about being insensitive, though.

  4. #144
    ESTP - The Doers

    Quote Originally Posted by FakeLefty View Post
    In general I've gotten along well with feeling types, or people who have well developed feeling functions. I would have to be careful about being insensitive, though.
    Well, it's hard not to be insensitive when you're just not seeing the same thing. I look at unicorns and think steak. I've learned sensitive people don't actually want to hear my thoughts out loud.

  5. #145
    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by monemi View Post
    I've learned sensitive people don't actually want to hear my thoughts out loud.
    This is a good point.

    Some people who are described as sensitive are often insensitive to others, they can be very egocentric. It's about their own sensitivities with a lack of concern for others.
    Which come to think of it, could follow well with a stereotypical Fi-dom description hahaha
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  6. #146
    INFP - The Idealists

    Wow, my thread.

    I'm an INFP girl with a 31-year-old (male) ESTP. We met over three years ago at a local bar where I was doing campaign work. Something about this guy drew my attention although I was currently dating another guy (ESFP) long term. We talked about politics for hours but nothing happened for the reasons I mentioned in this paragraph. We still lived kind of close to each other and had friends in common so we stayed in touch. Nothing happened until this winter.

    After a night at the bar I ended up at his place. Well, what happened was the usual story involving two adults of opposite sexes and some liquor. At first it seemed like he could be fun company, he was playful, assertive, a go-getter and so on. Neither of us thought the relationship would turn into much more than what two fun-loving criminals would have together. We weren't on the same level of agreenment like I had been with other intuitives and from his point of view I seemed like a complete weirdo at first glance. Then weeks went by and I noticed I had spent EVERY DAY with this guy, mostly at his apartment.

    So, what was first sex turned into liking him and then liking him turned into loving him. What happened was that I was able to see behind his cool boy facade and see that he had good intentions and he was a very loving and caring man. The way he seemed sometimes like bull in a glass house was somehow sweet IMO and he loved the way I seemed sweet and innocent and yet could be a smart and a strong woman. We saw that we were each other, reversed.

    After that there was no turning back. Now we've been together for several months - three actually. And you know what? We've discussed marriage, children and I'm moving together with him next month. We've also met each other's families and friends. To be honest we already live together for I don't really spend much time at home anymore. My INFJ roommate (and friend for 12 years) and her ISTP boyfriend basically live here (we are like commies, lol) although they're also moving this month together to another apartment.

    At the moment I'm not in good terms with my ESTP boyfriend. Why? I've had a really bad year. Too much has been going on that's been draining my energy. This drained INFP got passive-aggressive and started bitching at her boyfriend over a week. It was stupid and unhealthy and I can see how much damage it has done to our relationship. Now I need to make things up and make him happy again. Those who say ESTP's are jerks and INFP's are sensitive goody-two-shoes don't have a clue. He can say stupid things sometimes like any extroverted sensor would probably do but the way I can get super mean, petty, annoying and vengeful is another story.

    He said yesterday something along the lines "You dwell on things by yourself and then burst all of a sudden". I should have discussed the things I didn't like about our relationship, like his way of being selfish at times. I know I tend to "burden and burst" and have taken some steps into more healthier communication. I'm still human and failed to remember those earlier lessons I've learned.

    So.
    I did burst.
    He was shocked.
    Then he was angered.
    Then it made him sad.

    Now I'm asking for some advice. If you know any way to cheer him up and make things up I'd appreciate it. I see now how awful I've been and how much I really, really love this man and want to be with him, want to make him happy and so on. I'm going to wear a beautiful dress today, put on some make up and make him some nice food...he's not even expecting me to come as I said I'd be at home "thinking my stuff through". If you have any other good ideas feel free to share them. If you just want to tell me I'm the selfish, arrogant bitch here you don't need to. I know that already

    Another thing: sex is mind-blowing!!!!!!!! Wow!!!!! And if he wants it can have his kids. If he wants ten of them he can have that. Their future mother just needs to grow up first

  7. #147
    ESTP - The Doers

    Apologize to him, Say you're sorry for lashing out, then have the long talk. The talk is you being honest and blunt with him, about how you can throw a tantrum out of nowhere, and that while you're a happy person, you love life,some days you can be real bitchy and catty as the next person. And petty about different things. As an ESTP, he'll appreciate the honesty and the bluntness you're giving him, as we don't like it when people hold back to spare our feelings. Just remember the truth hurts,but it shall set you free. Before you do the talk, assess your relationship with him, think of 5 things you love about him,include that in the talk. I'm sure he'll understand that relationships take work, especially if you're an INFP with an ESTP, there will be bumps along the way,but two people who love each other will get over the bumps, and come out stronger.


    Quote Originally Posted by Lady D View Post
    Wow, my thread.

    I'm an INFP girl with a 31-year-old (male) ESTP. We met over three years ago at a local bar where I was doing campaign work. Something about this guy drew my attention although I was currently dating another guy (ESFP) long term. We talked about politics for hours but nothing happened for the reasons I mentioned in this paragraph. We still lived kind of close to each other and had friends in common so we stayed in touch. Nothing happened until this winter.

    After a night at the bar I ended up at his place. Well, what happened was the usual story involving two adults of opposite sexes and some liquor. At first it seemed like he could be fun company, he was playful, assertive, a go-getter and so on. Neither of us thought the relationship would turn into much more than what two fun-loving criminals would have together. We weren't on the same level of agreenment like I had been with other intuitives and from his point of view I seemed like a complete weirdo at first glance. Then weeks went by and I noticed I had spent EVERY DAY with this guy, mostly at his apartment.

    So, what was first sex turned into liking him and then liking him turned into loving him. What happened was that I was able to see behind his cool boy facade and see that he had good intentions and he was a very loving and caring man. The way he seemed sometimes like bull in a glass house was somehow sweet IMO and he loved the way I seemed sweet and innocent and yet could be a smart and a strong woman. We saw that we were each other, reversed.

    After that there was no turning back. Now we've been together for several months - three actually. And you know what? We've discussed marriage, children and I'm moving together with him next month. We've also met each other's families and friends. To be honest we already live together for I don't really spend much time at home anymore. My INFJ roommate (and friend for 12 years) and her ISTP boyfriend basically live here (we are like commies, lol) although they're also moving this month together to another apartment.

    At the moment I'm not in good terms with my ESTP boyfriend. Why? I've had a really bad year. Too much has been going on that's been draining my energy. This drained INFP got passive-aggressive and started bitching at her boyfriend over a week. It was stupid and unhealthy and I can see how much damage it has done to our relationship. Now I need to make things up and make him happy again. Those who say ESTP's are jerks and INFP's are sensitive goody-two-shoes don't have a clue. He can say stupid things sometimes like any extroverted sensor would probably do but the way I can get super mean, petty, annoying and vengeful is another story.

    He said yesterday something along the lines "You dwell on things by yourself and then burst all of a sudden". I should have discussed the things I didn't like about our relationship, like his way of being selfish at times. I know I tend to "burden and burst" and have taken some steps into more healthier communication. I'm still human and failed to remember those earlier lessons I've learned.

    So.
    I did burst.
    He was shocked.
    Then he was angered.
    Then it made him sad.

    Now I'm asking for some advice. If you know any way to cheer him up and make things up I'd appreciate it. I see now how awful I've been and how much I really, really love this man and want to be with him, want to make him happy and so on. I'm going to wear a beautiful dress today, put on some make up and make him some nice food...he's not even expecting me to come as I said I'd be at home "thinking my stuff through". If you have any other good ideas feel free to share them. If you just want to tell me I'm the selfish, arrogant bitch here you don't need to. I know that already

    Another thing: sex is mind-blowing!!!!!!!! Wow!!!!! And if he wants it can have his kids. If he wants ten of them he can have that. Their future mother just needs to grow up first
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  8. #148
    INFP - The Idealists

    Se + Fi = <3

    Thanks @Brian1.

    The plan worked out well. I just skipped most of the talk for we know each other so well already that few words "honey I should always talk things out and not let them burden inside" tell him enough. We are both blunt honest in our healthy states so that helps a lot. I'm also pretty outgoing for an introvert and he's more of an introverted, sensitive version of an ESTP, almost like an ESFP on the surface. Yet, Fe is not Fi. We've both also had to grow a lot and life hasn't been too easy for neither of us.

    We both thought out how to take the other person's criticism (and I'm far from good at this, a stereotypical INFP on this one) and how to act upon that. From that point no words were needed. Now I know why people say they want to spend the rest of their life with another person. I've been in love before and have been in two long relationships but it hasn't ever felt like this one. I told him in the evening that I need his mother's phone number. He asked me why. I told him I wanted to call his mom and tell her her son is a wizard who's put a spell on me and I'd just like to ask if she knows a similar spell for him. Mothers are ought to know these issues.

    Sorry, it's 6:30 and my thoughts are lingering around his ****, hahahaha I took a mouthful of it before he went off to work 45 minutes ago*

    * I was talking about cake, a special treat - what were you thinking? There are children hanging out at this site, OK? LOL.
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  9. #149
    ESTP - The Doers

    @Lady D,

    Good. Glad to hear it.
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