ESTP: Relationship Resolution

Here is the ESTP way. You will see the many and varied personality traits that ESTPs naturally show as they relate to others. If you are an ESTP let this self-knowledge help and guide you in your marriage and family life. If you are in relationship with an ESTP allow the wonder of what you learn here to guide your understanding of and responses to how ESTPs behave.

Myers-Briggs “Compatibility Test” Results - ESTP Personality Traits
• The ESTP are skilled manipulators in relationships
• The ESTP will have difficulty apologizing to mate and children
• The ESTP is very confident in most situations
• The ESTP can be impulsive with sexuality
• ESTPs can be somewhat critical
• ESTPs are very realistic not idealistic about mate and relationship
• The ESTPs live in the world of the now and can be impulsive
• ESTPs enjoy taking risks, adventure, in everything…everything
• The ESTP is socially adept, good at a party
• The ESTP under stress may get emotional, than change up
• The ESTP enjoys sexual experimentation
• The ESTPs do not want to be controlled, fenced in by a mate
• The ESTP enjoys fun, may have a lot of “toys”
• The ESTP may get bored by routine family matters

On the Personality & Marriage section of this site the statement was made that all relationships will encounter conflict. It is part of being human. How we experience conflict, react to it and move to solve it are instinctive. So we have some power and control and will INSTINCTIVELY and NATURALLY use our personality traits in a conflict resolution activity, at least some of the time. The following personality traits are keys to understanding the ESTP approach to conflict in relationships/marriage.



ESTP Conflict Reactions Personality Traits
• ESTP will typically not flee the conflict
• ESTP will likely jump right in, confront to resolve the conflict
• ESTP will not desire to find a harmonious solution to the problem
• ESTP will usually take the most logical approach to finding the solution
• ESTP will view “conflict” as a necessary part of life providing opportunity
• ESTP will usually not take the conflict personally

ESTP Conflict Resolution Activity Personality Traits
• ESTP will naturally not consider the feelings of others in conflict resolution activity
• ESTP will analyze the situation first, respond directly
• ESTP will consider pro and con, cause and affect
• ESTP will look for logical solutions to the conflict
• ESTP will act quickly a real “troubleshooter” mentality

ESTP Likely Positive Solutions Will Be:
• Fair, reasonable, impartial, rational, evenhanded
• Realistic, pragmatic, sensible
• Efficient, competent, proficient
• Feasible, workable, effective
• Logical above all else

ESTP Conflict Resolution Activity-Improvement Opportunities
• ESTP will typically overlook or minimize the “feelings” of others
• ESTP dictate and order more than listen
• ESTP will many times deliver solutions intensely not understanding how that might put others off
• ESTP criticize too quickly before offering appreciation
• ESTPs may tend to control, direct, mange the situation
• ESTP will probably discount, ignore, disregard, and overlook solutions that are people-centered
• ESTP may create conflict by trying to fix rather than just listen to the problems of others
• ESTPs may fail to “feel” things through enough
• ESTPs may use argument as an objective means to solution…others may not

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