[Poptart]

Religious
Insensitive
Workaholic
Competitive
Judgemental
Authoritarian
Confrontational
Bossy/controlling
Doesn't admit defeat
Jumps to conclusions about people's intentions



OP, the only one I disagree with on your list is "direct and truthful when communicating with others". While they are often truthful and easy to read, their communication style can be indirect and they often imply things instead of stating them explicitly. For example, they may phrase a statement in the form of a question, and expect the listener to take it as a statement. The first instance that comes to mind is when my little brother eats with his fingers, my ESTJ father will say "DO YOU HAVE A FORK!?" instead of "use your fork". Bad example, but it is one of many.

[sophieanastasiax]

Should I really be an ESTJ? I mean, i'm not like any of these stereotypes, and anyone who would know me wouldn't think I was like any of those things

[Hruberen]

I have an ESTJ friend, he is very loyal and respects others, He is also kind of clingy and a bit too eager to jump on the bandwagon, but he can go along with my crazy ideas, so he's ok. I'll never be able to connect with him on the same level as say, my INFJ friend. But he's an ESTJ in a group of Ns...

[Julia Bell]

Should I really be an ESTJ? I mean, i'm not like any of these stereotypes, and anyone who would know me wouldn't think I was like any of those things

That's exactly the point. Stereotypes = fail. XD

[Marimeli]

Not all stereotypes have to be negative, though. I'm an INFP and my husband is an ESTJ and some of the positive stereotypes are the things I value most about his contribution to our relationship: I never feel emotionally insecure with him because he is loyal, steady and dependable and always fulfills his promises and obligations. His emotional steadiness makes a nice bedrock foundation for me to anchor myself during flights of fancy or emotional stress. On the other hand, where he tends to be authoritative in the raising of our children, he often confers with me about discipline and drawing lines and nurturing them so that he can do right by them and not be a bully or overbearing.

[Marimeli]

Although as a caveat to the previous, he is NOT the person I look to for deep intellectual stimulation or when I want an open-minded discussion of an issue from various points of view. :)

[rin111]

based on experience with one estj-

very bossy
pretty controlling- i think this is basically love for me showing itself in a 'thinker's way?
Frigid- as in, no emotions. i mean, there are plenty, but buried deep within. It seems like they find emotions a hindrance to fullfilling duties
No PDA- never shows affection physically. i have to get really sick for them to show me any love. this makes me think that they dont really love me at all :(

Never listens- well, they never listen to any problems, never seem interested in how one feels, or empathetic
Obstinate - super stubborn about everything from napkins to pens. will never listen to advice
Don't want to learn anything new
NEVER admit they were wrong i cant stand this!
Very duty-minded- they are responsible,the prob is the things they take on may not necessarily be what they need to do.
Distrusting- they think every one's irresponsible but themselves. it's nearly impossible to gain their trust but once achieved, they'll treat you nearly as an equal
hate taking any help- actually they hate feeling helpless or requiring help. if they get it, it has to be done with love and they will try to prevent your helping them. if you barge ahead and say 'No thanks, i love you and it's my job to help you.' they'll be more gracious and dependent
Need to be praised- if they aren't, they'll sulk and claim that ppl use them like a rag
Bullies- not that they're blunt( which they are) but that they try to control and manage people
Wet blankets- you say, 'I got a new piano! I'm gonna become a famous composer!'
they say, 'More likely you'll drop it after a week. You never stick to anything.'


Support- they never show any emotions usually so when you break down and they're always there, sturdy, supportive reliable, you'll be surprised by the contrast

Blunt- TBH this works for me. I like it when people are honest and may be taken at face value.

Loving- in their way. not ideal for nfs but their love is smothering

reliable- always responsible and reliable. a lot of others are too but this type seems to have fewer good points going for it :P

Social stacking- they have a rigid list of their friends, family, boss, etc and they tell you where you are. this is really good as it doesnt leave you in the dark

[Hycocritical truth teller]

I don't know many ESTJ, though... Just myself.

you know yourself? i wish i could say the same :/
anyways - enough jokes...seriously if all this is even half-true for ESTJ im gonna get a radar for them and put them in front of my house just in case someone wants to assassin me :D

[Marlowe]

I'm basing these off an ESTJ I know:

By the book to unreasonable lengths
Micro-manger
Nosy
Will not listen to anybody else's opinions (unless it comes from higher authority)
Stubborn
Impatient
Lacking in common-sense
Rigid
Controlling
Domineering
Did I mention micro-manager?
Bossy
Arrogant

[Sumbody]

It sounds like every person these stereotypes are based on are simply assholes that just happen to be an ESTJ. Maybe not crazy, but definitely personality issues. I don't fit any one of those (well maybe a couple), and that's not me telling everyone how special I am either.