What do you think?
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What do you think?
Well, I read somewhere it was ISTP or possibly INTP (though ISTP was clearly the first choice). In my personal experience, I have to say I can see this working.
I have a good ISTP friend, and although we aren't romantically "involved" or however you want to put it (for reasons that have nothing to do with type), I could see it working. Our friendship is seamless. Natural. For lack of a better word, easy, even. It doesn't feel forced on either end. We get along splendidly. I mean, yes, we have our arguments, but neither of us is generally offended and we're both willing to resolve it. The opposite attitude on each of the functions doesn't feel completely opposite. Maybe because we do have the same basic functions in the same order (T, S, N, F). We just... get each other. I can't say that it works like this for all ESTJs/ISTPs, but I like it.
I also have a good INTP friend that I was interested in (and he was interested in me), but for various reasons (again, nothing to do with type) it didn't work out. In general though I could see the types working. We balanced each other nicely. He valued me for the things I am good at: practicality/down-to-earth-ness(?), being able to see the details and how they work together, improving the order/efficiency of surroundings, etc. And I valued him for what he is good at: his logic, his knowledge of how others "tick", his drive to figure things out, etc. Also I found it mildly ironic because of the common saying that girls end up with someone like their daddy, and my father happens to be an INTP. And I do have a really good father/daughter relationship with my father, actually.
Personally, right now I am interested in this INTJ I know. I don't think it will ever work out, though. I mean, I'm sure there are some INTJ/ESTJ couples somewhere, but I don't know how they do it. I wish I did. He just seems somewhat... withdrawn. While I try to open up and talk with him, he makes it slightly difficult. Not purposefully. But it is just the same. It's quite opposite of my friendship with the ISTP. I feel like this INTJ and I know each other fairly well (especially because we're both so into the MBTI and often discuss it even in terms of ourselves), but we don't just "click" the way the ISTP and I do. It requires a lot of effort (in my opinion anyway). And on top of that, I feel like he thinks my E is smothering and is bothered by my S because we don't think the same way at all. He will tell me something and as hard as I try to understand and have the kind of conversation with him about it that I think he wants to have, I just can't. It's not that I don't like it. I do. I love hearing him talk about things and watching his Ni at work (the few glimpses I get of it. it is an introverted function after all), but I can't think that way with him.
Anyway, just my two cents on a few types.
I am pretty sure my current boyfriend is INTP. We get along brilliantly and balance nicely the majority of the time.
Patience is a must for being in a relationship with an ESTJ.
My ISTJ dad is extremely well-matched with my ESTJ mom. She decides what needs to be done and then they both do them. ;)
Hello, I'm new here and just looking around So far I found out ESTJ male's are few here. I am in a very good wonderful relationship with a ENTJ Female, I majored in psychology, and she has her degree. We both find it strange that we fit so well together. Guessing it's like a ENTJ + ENTJ one has to be more passive and give control over, but not be forced to. Also her very low E and T probably have alot to do with it also. As everyone knows personality has a lot to do with it.
According to Keirsey's theory, the most compatible match for an ESTJ is an ISFP. This view is different than other theories, but it has empirical evidence to support it. According to Keirsey's research, SJs and SPs have more successful marriages than any other pairing involving SJs. He found that when SJ's married any type other than SP, their marriage had a higher risk of failure. Likewise, NT's are better matched with NF's.
Keirsey found that the S/N dichotomy was the most important personality threshold; that it was the factor which divided the world into people to whom we can talk easily, and people with whom communication is more difficult.
Keirsey moreover he theorizes that, while the S (or the N) ought to be the same, pairs compliment each other best when every other variable is different. e.g. I, ENFP, am married to an INFJ, and we both find the relationship easy, happy, and mutually satisfying. Our differences tend to be highly valued in one another--he leans on my bubbly emotional intellect and I am grateful for his strategic stability. I think an ESTJ/ISFP pairing would be similar--the gruff uprightness of the ESTJ being appreciated and valued by the ISFP, who offers sweet playfulness in return. Together, the pairs make a full expression of the temperament spectrum within the S, or within the N, respectively.
Much evidence has been found that SJ/NT or SP/NF pairings are particularly difficult, fraught with misunderstanding and strained communication.
Here's some more about Keirsey's compatibility theory on SJs and SPs:
Keirsey's PersonalityZone - Personality and Your Relationships
I go with ENFP ,based on my real life experience.
ENFP in a relationship with an ESTJ. Going well so far, but it's definitely had its ups and downs. :)
INTP =]. Of course I'm basing this upon readings; however, I've been in a successful relationship with an ESTJ for over two years now, so offering insight primarily on a personal level is always helpful.
ISTJ here. I recently hooked up with an ESTJ and the chemistry was pretty good. However, she moved away for college, so we don't talk anymore.
Since then, however, I've been curious to observe my interaction with ESTJ. I thought this site might be a good place to start.
I'm not sure how IM works on here, so please, any ESTJ females out there willing to experiment with this, feel free to connect with me on here so we can get some results!