I'm so sorry but this is a long, long post. Just hope someone would help me out. Thanks :)
I'm in love with an ESTJ. When we first met and hit it off, he was sweet and he was caring. We were in high school together. He was there for me when I was undergoing a painful break up. He surprised me with gifts and made sure that everything's alright for me. We became a couple eventually and I've grown so attached to him that it felt like I was falling in love with him again and again. He'd do almost anything to meet my needs.
We'd find all the sweet things that could make each other happy. We'd contact every day and almost every minute. We were practically joined at the hip! When we had arguements and rough patches, he'd always find some way to solve it or becomes happy back when I express my love to him.
But later on in our relationship, we had the tendency to argue more. Even the little things bother us. Our behaviours annoy each other, our view clash and we both think we're right. Sometimes I try to make him understand my point of view but he wouldn't listen. He grew colder and I became more emotional. He spends more time with his friends and sometimes avoid being alone with me.
Just recently we had a big fight and he suggested a break up, but I held on. He's usually a determined person, but with me, he just couldn't decide. He told me that he love me still, but is tired and less passionate. Through my determination to stick to the relationship, he "found" a solution that he'd live his life without worrying if I'll get hurt or upset. Which means he wouldn't tell me so much about himself anymore and where he's going and what he's going to do. So now our relationship is sort of hanging in the air. He doesn't contact me as much anymore. I've gone through a whole day without him contacting me.
When I'm with him, he still showed that he cares and hugs and kisses are always there. But when I'm away from him, it's like out of sight, out of mind. Sometimes he gets frustrated with me and just couldn't care less.
I was wondering if this is a passing phase or is there anything I could do to win him back again? Will the relationship go back like it was before again? Will we be happy with each other again? I thought of giving him space for a week but it sort of kills me inside and I fear the relationship'd get worse. I heard that INFP and ESTJ are the worst of matches, but I really want to make this relationship work.
I'd appreciate all advices. Thank you.