[rawr_sheila]

I've always wondered this. I have many ESFP acquaintances, and they date many types of people. Stereotypically, looks are extremely important, and whoever is paired with an ESFP would be very attractive. To my surprise, that has not always been the case (though many times it has). Not that the girl/guy was plain ugly, but they were not the best looking thing on the corner. I've seen this happen more than once, including those paired with the ESFP guys. So obviously, personality does matter as well as looks-both are very important. I know many of you have a weakness for xNFJs and ISFJs!! Besides that, all of you are very well-liked, and you love everyone!!! You guys are very flirty, expressive, and open-book.





So mainly, what is it that makes your SO special from all the others that you date? What attracts you to him/her? How will you treat your SO differently from all of your other friends and acquaintances?

----Edit----
Another general question, what do you look for in a relationship?

[Marac]

It is probably similar to how it is for most people.

I have to feel physical attraction to her (I think it is really sexy when a girl is comfortable about her own appearance), I must like her personality (most important thing here is that she is a kind and caring person, I HATE drama queens) and it has to be convenient (well, it depends, but I prefer to be together with someone who lives nearby).

Other things:
- I don't like girls who try to change who I am or who tries to control me. I'm a free spirit. The harder to you squeeze, the more I slide through your fingers. (What I mean by this is that I would never cheat, but if a girl tries to say that I can't do things I like such as going out, because she is insecure and is afraid that I would cheat (which I wouldn't), the less I feel like being with her.)
- It is important that she enjoys having sex, because I enjoy that a lot
- Cool if she likes to travel, enjoys discussing world matters, watch movies, is into art
- She has to like cuddling, because I AM A CUDDLE MONSTER

[armika_armika]

LOL, actually, it's very common that I fall for "ugly" guys:D So my friends are like: "wtf.... HIM?" I'm obsessed with looks - but only with my own! So I'm quite vain, but I dont think I could stand being with a guy who's vain himself.
For me, what's inside the other person, or rather, "the radiance" of a person is much more important than anything else.

I like laid back guys, or shy guys, or quiet guys....well, introverts... or ehm logical guys, smart guys, guys who's not all over the place :P can't explain how intruiging I find introverts and how I admire most T's and also J's. I'm very much into people who are not like me (no offens marac, you know I like you too, but we both know that we would be a weird couple :P )


The guy I'm dating now, is special because.... dunno but I'm just sooo attracted to him. Unfortunatly he's not so much into me, so I'm considering forcing myself to stop seeing him :'( Or at least I dont think he is, he's like a fucking mystery for me... never know really what he feels or thinks. He is extremly smart and intelligent and has even written a book and got it published. He's quiet, pensative, but has a great dry sense of humour, and I LOVE his body!!!!! And he has this hairy belly which I love! So well, yeah can't get enough of him really. The sex is great!!! XD

How I treat him differently... well... I kiss him and sleep with him :P

But I think I have to be less flirty.... Now I'm flirting not only because I like it, but also in order to get some assurance, because dating this guy makes me so insecure about myself.... He doesn't give me cred for anything. Hasn't really said one nice thing to me during these months we've been dating. But I'm so hooked.

I like all sorts of people and love talking to everyone and make jokes, but in my heart I'm a real "family girl". family and some very few close friends are the most important for me. My SO and my family is my no 1 priority. Actually, when I'm in a relationship I almost stop going out, I'm very happy mostly being with family and try to be the best girlfriend I can. Phew... actually I think I have to change that too and become more independent.

[Marac]

I'm very much into people who are not like me (no offens marac, you know I like you too, but we both know that we would be a weird couple :P )

None taken.




I agree with you that it is sexy with people that are different from yourself.

Another version of myself would probably annoy me. WHY AREN'T YOU WORKING, YOU LAZY SHIT?

I'm really intrigued when a woman has skills that are vastly different from my own.

[armika_armika]

None taken.

LOL now the question is just....... which one of those guys are you and which one is me?
I must be the foxy cat ;P

[Marac]

LOL now the question is just....... which one of those guys are you and which one is me?
I must be the foxy cat ;P

The "jizzed in my pants" guy is also kind of cool, so ITS A DEAL!

[rawr_sheila]

- She has to like cuddling, because I AM A CUDDLE MONSTER

Cuddling?? O_o Haha I love cuddling too!!! The general ISTJ population loves to cuddle, only with an SO. ISTJs are no drama queens!!! But, we may be too boring for you guys, who knows?

[rawr_sheila]

@armika_armika

The guy I'm dating now, is special because.... dunno but I'm just sooo attracted to him. Unfortunatly he's not so much into me, so I'm considering forcing myself to stop seeing him :'( Or at least I dont think he is, he's like a fucking mystery for me... never know really what he feels or thinks.

Is being mysterious a good thing? What happens once that mystery is gone and you know everything about that person? Does that attraction diminish or does it stay the same?

I like all sorts of people and love talking to everyone and make jokes, but in my heart I'm a real "family girl". family and some very few close friends are the most important for me. My SO and my family is my no 1 priority. Actually, when I'm in a relationship I almost stop going out, I'm very happy mostly being with family and try to be the best girlfriend I can. Phew... actually I think I have to change that too and become more independent.

That's another thing I observed about ESFPs. Once you get an SO, you spend an enormous amount of time with them.

[armika_armika]

@rawr_sheila being mysterious is a definetly a good thing, and you know what? The mystery doesn't really "go away". I think that you will never know everything about a person, we are all in a constant process of development... and I mean, I don't even know all parts of myself, how would I ever get to know all parts of someone else?

BUT, I do get what you mean and you have a point. But I think the attraction still stays the same because other things like total trust and confidence is growing, and loooove :P Love grows. Just listen to the wise words of Fantan:

Awww, I wish I had a man who felt that way for me

About spending so much time with the SO, maybe it's wrong... I don't know. What do you think??? The guy I'm having the crush on now is an intp, so I guess we have quite different needs. :O

Oh! And my childhoood best friend is here visiting me, and we just found ut she's an ISTJ. LOL. I LOVE ISTJS!!!! We have the best time ever, and she's such a sweet, caring and loyal friend! Ah you're the best :P now I just need to find a man like her.... once my intp crush finally dumped my sorry ass that is. :O

[armika_armika]

Cuddling?? O_o Haha I love cuddling too!!! The general ISTJ population loves to cuddle, only with an SO. ISTJs are no drama queens!!! But, we may be too boring for you guys, who knows?

You are NOT boring!