[Juan M]

What kind of personality type pisses off a ESFP more?

[sparkles]

No idea how to answer the question in terms of type. I can't say an entire type would be more likely to piss me off. I think the xxxJ preference can have a good chance of leading to friction if xxxP is too rigid in their flexibility or if xxxJ is too rigid about their inflexibility. T/F can lead to friction and N/S can lead to friction but none of this is inherent. It's all based on an individual person and how they mesh with another individual person.

As for what pisses me off, and I'm only answering as my individual self...
+ Win/lose behavior (stealing, lying, cheating, opportunism that causes deprivation for another, etc.)
+ Attempts to control me or force me to do something (major issue for me, though I've gotten better with it)

...Other choices or tendencies can bother me but they don't irritate me. They rather just don't resonate with me so I distance myself when possible.

[gaudy316]

How to REALLY piss off an ESFP:

1. Wake them up, even though they're the ones that are late
2. Ground them (children) so that they can't go out

I roomed with several ESFPs in college

[sumaya3357]

Awww, the real question is why would you want to? We are usually so easy going and fun. Why kill it by getting us mad? :(

[INTP user]

If you really want to piss an esfp off you tell them what to do and give them a bunch of rules to play by.

[elissabowden]

things that make me really annoyed and pissy:

-people who REFUSE to do anything spontaneous. i don't know how i become friends with them, but it always happens and then i hate them.
-people who are too stupid to realize when someone is joking. i don't understand how it's that hard.
-people who never want to leave the house to do something. why?
-people with crazy theories. if you want me to be interested in the slightest of your theories, at least make sure they MAKE SENSE and cover your bases.
-people who never want to try anything new. just do it. it's not going to hurt you. and i'm talking "try the lime" "no." "you don't like it?" "i've never tried it." "then how do you know if you don't like it" "i just know." no you don't. you freaking don't.
-when people don't make sense. why take the long way instead of cutting across? it's easier.
-people who say they believe in something and don't do it. if you don't want to do it, don't say it to please me. i don't care what you do.
-people who judge before getting to know someone. no one is the same. they may agree on some things, but you don't actually know.
-being in the middle of no where. i need to see STUFF. not grass. and one cow.
-wasting time. OMG SO ANNOYING! i could be doing something while i wait around. time is money.

if i think of more, i'll say. but those are the most irritating. but it takes a lot for me to show it. i'll just start tapping my fingers or foot. but i won't yell or anything. the only time i yell is if i repeatedly say something and the person STILL doesn't get it. then i get really really ANGRY. but it's rare.

[Cameron]

things that make me really annoyed and pissy:

-people who REFUSE to do anything spontaneous. i don't know how i become friends with them, but it always happens and then i hate them.
-people who are too stupid to realize when someone is joking. i don't understand how it's that hard.
-people who never want to leave the house to do something. why?
-people with crazy theories. if you want me to be interested in the slightest of your theories, at least make sure they MAKE SENSE and cover your bases.
-people who never want to try anything new. just do it. it's not going to hurt you. and i'm talking "try the lime" "no." "you don't like it?" "i've never tried it." "then how do you know if you don't like it" "i just know." no you don't. you freaking don't.
-when people don't make sense. why take the long way instead of cutting across? it's easier.
-people who say they believe in something and don't do it. if you don't want to do it, don't say it to please me. i don't care what you do.
-people who judge before getting to know someone. no one is the same. they may agree on some things, but you don't actually know.
-being in the middle of no where. i need to see STUFF. not grass. and one cow.
-wasting time. OMG SO ANNOYING! i could be doing something while i wait around. time is money.

if i think of more, i'll say. but those are the most irritating. but it takes a lot for me to show it. i'll just start tapping my fingers or foot. but i won't yell or anything. the only time i yell is if i repeatedly say something and the person STILL doesn't get it. then i get really really ANGRY. but it's rare.

Okay, I want to take the line by line of where action can be taken to prevent some of this, and where it cannot be. Thought patterns that are learned, can be changed; patterns that are inherited, most likely cannot be. Lets go through line by line to see what can be changed and what I believe have a better understanding behind it:

1. people who REFUSE to do anything spontaneous. i don't know how i become friends with them, but it always happens and then i hate them.
Spontaneousness is a gift, not something virtuous (right or wrong). It's not a matter of refusal, it's a matter of needing forethought, reason, and information to base their decision off of.

2. people who are too stupid to realize when someone is joking. i don't understand how it's that hard.
This is not a matter of stupidity, but a lack of a skill that one cannot exactly read out of a text book (not their fault).

3. people who never want to leave the house to do something. why?
Not everyone enjoys being out of the house, many enjoy being in an introverted environment because that's where they have their skills. In an extroverted setting, many lack the skills necessary to function as capably as someone like yourself, and for that feel discomforted by the thought of leaving. Again, not a "learnable" characteristic to change one's feelings toward an extroverted setting.

4. people with crazy theories. if you want me to be interested in the slightest of your theories, at least make sure they MAKE SENSE and cover your bases.
Some are more interested in theories of explanation than something sensibly understood. I agree, those in this area should not push theory to someone else if it's not directed to someone who would rather not discuss it. This is learned behavior, and can be changed.

5. people who never want to try anything new. just do it. it's not going to hurt you. and i'm talking "try the lime" "no." "you don't like it?" "i've never tried it." "then how do you know if you don't like it" "i just know." no you don't. you freaking don't.
Refer to number 1. Otherwise, no comment.

6. when people don't make sense. why take the long way instead of cutting across? it's easier.
This is very general, but most, when they hear "cutting across" think of "cutting corners" which is a negative term. It also seems like it's "rule breaking", most are not a fan of challenging authority. Is this learned? Possibly, possibly not, difficult to judge because of the nonspecifics.

7. people who say they believe in something and don't do it. if you don't want to do it, don't say it to please me. i don't care what you do.
Too general for comment. We could be referring to God here, could be referring to a theory that someone throws out but just wants others to implement. Learned? Not sure.

8. people who judge before getting to know someone. no one is the same. they may agree on some things, but you don't actually know.
This is very much to do with temperment. NT's will trace the trajectory of a person's behavior to measure their capability to perform what the NT sees as something of value. NF's will also, just less in a sense of competency, and more on a humanistic and level of how compassionate they can be. SJ's will base their judgements on experience with people that behave or act in a certain way and act accordingly. SP's take all the info as it comes to them from the person and does not consider breaking ways at least mentally until something ACTUALLY happens that they don't like.
So, in a sense, SP's are the least likely to judge.. I do not believe this projection is learned, but inherited behavior. However, how they treat and act on those mental projections of this person into the future is learned and controllable. Very important point I think.
However, a reasonable expectation of others.

9. being in the middle of no where. i need to see STUFF. not grass. and one cow.
Very broad on what the actual problem is here and what actions can be taken to prevent it.

10. wasting time. OMG SO ANNOYING! i could be doing something while i wait around. time is money.
Refer to number 9.

Finally, " the only time i yell is if i repeatedly say something and the person STILL doesn't get it. then i get really really ANGRY. but it's rare."
Yesterday, I saw a 5'8'' 200 lb man (Stout) step out of his black mustang. He appeared to be about 23 or so, wearing a white flat rimmed cap with black designs on it, white rimmed sunglasses, a black t-shirt with similar designs to the cap in white, shorts, and white shoes with short socks that seemed to be supporting a lot of weight.
It wasn't the action of stepping out, that was strange however, it was the place he did it that was. I found myself staring out the back window of my car on a two lane road at a stop light, toward a man screaming at the top of his lungs at the woman behind him for riding too close. No harm had been done, but it must have seemed imminent to the man that it come soon enough.
The woman sat frozen in fear, completely unaware previously that she'd done anything wrong, but now paralyzed in the out right rage of the man in front of her.
Please keep control of one's temper, SP's are all too prone to an outburst. :( It does not display valid communication skills, and does not effectively convey one's point.

Tl;dr:
Numbers 8 and 4 are changeable behaviors, the rest I believe need more understanding of the person or situation.

[SpiderZombieLobster]

keep in mind, not all ESFPs will agree with elissabowden or anyone else's list of what pisses them off. just sayin.

[Cameron]

keep in mind, not all ESFPs will agree with elissabowden or anyone else's list of what pisses them off. just sayin.

and also that the differences between male and female ESFPs are VAST. On the "Efficiency scale" in my manual, a study was conducted via questionnaire used by psychologists to measure their efficiency in their life.
The study was broken up between male and female for cultural reasons and statistical findings.

Female ESFPs were rated 16/16 in level of efficiency.

Males on the other hand were rated 1/16.

SHOCKING results in my opinion that display the stark differences in type in relation to gender.

[SpiderZombieLobster]

and also that the differences between male and female ESFPs are VAST. On the "Efficiency scale" in my manual, a study was conducted via questionnaire used by psychologists to measure their efficiency in their life.
The study was broken up between male and female for cultural reasons and statistical findings.

Female ESFPs were rated 16/16 in level of efficiency.

Males on the other hand were rated 1/16.

SHOCKING results in my opinion that display the stark differences in type in relation to gender.

sorry, im a little confused. does that mean that males or females were more efficient?