[themartyparade]

I've got the need to always be understood. People think of me of a certain way and I've got this social-worker who's like my mother and my best friend all in one and she's always reading things into my actions but she's never accurate. I try to explain it to her but it's like she doesn't get that the things I do don't always have some deep hidden meaning to them.

Perhaps it's 'cause I've been misunderstood a lot in the past but I've just got this need to explain things to people and I just want them to understand who I am and why I do the things I do. It could also be 'cause I'm trying to understand myself or 'cause I just love to talk about myself. I don't know but it's really annoying 'cause it feels like people don't really give a shit and I was wondering if anyone here feels the same?

[Neon Knight]

I've got the need to always be understood. People think of me of a certain way and I've got this social-worker who's like my mother and my best friend all in one and she's always reading things into my actions but she's never accurate. I try to explain it to her but it's like she doesn't get that the things I do don't always have some deep hidden meaning to them.

Hey I'm not the only one! My two think I'm intraverted and one actually knows MBTI. I think it's because they see us in the worst shape and we talk about all the crap to them we go through so they see that crap as us or something like that. Mine I've had to correct a few times already myself. I wonder why people miss the mark like that then?

Perhaps it's 'cause I've been misunderstood a lot in the past but I've just got this need to explain things to people and I just want them to understand who I am and why I do the things I do. It could also be 'cause I'm trying to understand myself or 'cause I just love to talk about myself. I don't know but it's really annoying 'cause it feels like people don't really give a shit and I was wondering if anyone here feels the same?

I just naturally get all defensive and feel the need to explain every little thing. It all sounds all quite familiar really, so hope that makes you feel better

[Digger Blue]

TMP:
I am wondering if your mother is an NF, or maybe ENFP? Do you have a copy of Please Understand Me II? by Keirsey? P155 covers ENFP's, they are known for "keen and penetrating observance of the people around them". "Interpreting events in terms of another's hidden motives."
Do those sound like they fit your mom? Idealist Champions. Just a thought.
Regards,
Digger blue

[Rez]

I've got the need to always be understood. People think of me of a certain way and I've got this social-worker who's like my mother and my best friend all in one and she's always reading things into my actions but she's never accurate. I try to explain it to her but it's like she doesn't get that the things I do don't always have some deep hidden meaning to them.

Perhaps it's 'cause I've been misunderstood a lot in the past but I've just got this need to explain things to people and I just want them to understand who I am and why I do the things I do. It could also be 'cause I'm trying to understand myself or 'cause I just love to talk about myself. I don't know but it's really annoying 'cause it feels like people don't really give a shit and I was wondering if anyone here feels the same?

you want to be understood

you want to understand yourself

you love talking about yourself

but you are annoyed that others don't understand you


Just tell them not to read into the hidden meaning of what you do or say and Just say what is on your mind

you might think , "Why bother sharing who I am when they just wont get it any ways?"


Well it seems like you know what you want but you just want others to know who you are . You have positive thinking in one situation but you seem to downplay its importance in sharing. You must use positive thinking in both situations: active/inactive situations.

Active: Sharing who you are and demanding that no one read into anythingPositive

inactive: Thinking no one cares what you sayNegative

POSTIVE X NEGATIVE=NEGATIVE OUTCOME

[mrgreendots]

I feel the same but I never have the guts to explain myself to anyone because no one could care less.

[elissabowden]

i was tired of trying to get other people to understand me. so now, i just say it how it is. i'll say "i'm mad. why couldn't you do this? i don't understand. i did it because etc." it seems to get across better.

[unspokendeeplyunderstood]

hey thats me :)