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This is a discussion on The way in which the world views ESFP's within the ESFP Forum - The Performers forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by wuzasims I take exception to ESFPs "not being very bright" I am very bright thank you ...actually ...
I find that for the most parts, I fit the "stereotype", but I do have my bright moments, and I have certain moods where I'm more of a deep thinker than others. I think the fact that I'm on a forum for personality types at least shows SOME brain activity, thank you very much? o.O
ESFPs... I've met ones that I've liked, but I feel most don't have anything to offer me most of the time, and vice-versa. I think most of them are:
Spontaneous, tolerable in small bursts, directionless, at home in 'fun' social situations with lots of people, people of little depth, not the type to sit down and read a book, an inexhaustible supply of energy, ones who fail to realise that not everybody wants to party, uplifting, fidgets who won't sit still, alive for the moment.
my mother doesn't keep many promises either . at many times ESTPs tend not to read or know information especially if this information needs deep thinking or analysis . they usually read the headlines only to show off them or as attempt to impress the others.
sometimes they become hyper-emotional in an annoying way for some unimportant reasons.
they do not like objective criticism - which they really need sometimes- and they take it personally.
they are reluctant about many things and they are short-term thinkers and they tend to postpone important decisions as they believe that life is simple and they do not like to have aplan B .
they are superficial for most of the time especially when choosing something.
they are more interested in the appearance than the real value of something.
they aren't rational at many times and they let their emotions WILDLY and sometimes recklessly LEAD THEM.
when it comes to their careers they focus on making friends and having fun more than getting the job done.
they just don't usually understand that you need your own privacy area especially if you are an introvert.
they can make you smile and entertain you if you are having a bad day .
My friend is an ESFP. When I first met her I thought she was shallow and way too different from me. I'm glad I changed my mind. She's a very outgoing, fun, friendly, bubbly, caring, forgiving, spontaneous and active person. We're pretty much opposites, but I think we learn from our differences.
A lot of people have negative outlooks on ESFps. They don't even give us a chance. That tends to bother me more in writing, though. Some people are so narrow-minded.
What you see on the outside, might not be on the inside. I have such a hard time expressing myself. I don't know if other ESFps feel the same.
The thing I hate most about certain people is they judge things at face value. You make us out to be thoughtless and stupid when we are just trying to entertain you..
I see Marilyn Monroe as sort of the archetype ESFP; outgoing, gregarious, fun-loving, talented, but also somewhat fragile and self-destructive. Of course, I understand that there are healthier ESFPs. Without getting too philosophical on you guys, I think ESFP and ESFJ archetypes are regarded as the ideals of society. We always commend people for being generous and full of life. We love a celebrity who, at the end of an exhausting day, will still smile and laugh, take pictures and sign autographs with her fans. We love those celebrities. We virtually HATE an introverted celebrity who doesn't want to be bothered at the end of the day. We see introverts as self-serving prima donnas. We think of intellectuals as boring and arrogant. People are far more concerned with the shennanigans of Lindsay Lohan than the good works of INFP Mother Theresa. ESFPs are anything, if not entertaining. We should take care to remember how kind and generous an ESFP be and not be too judgmental but I do see the cognitive bias of society in favor of ESFs.
I can't believe the number of people who say ESFPs aren't deep.
Just because they like to be spontaneous and fun the majority of the time does not mean they can't have a deep conversation.
Everyone has preferences, and an INTJ who sits in his room brooding and plotting is no more 'deep' than an ESFP who goes out and enjoys life.
The girl who got the best grades in my elementary school was an ESFP. Everything just clicked with her naturally because she was intelligent and a deep thinker.
I think I've met more intellectual ESFPs than intellectual INTJs in my life, and no, I do not know more ESFPs overall.