[Poetic_Anarchy]

How would you, an ESFJ, describe yourself? As you are and as you want to be?
I'm trying to learn more about the other types.



Thanks

[The Darling]

I really don't know much about my type I just read through all sixteen and found myself to relate more with ESFJ's. And then I took a personality test and found I was still a ESFJ. I won't to explain but I suck at talking about myself, I end up just rambling. But to start, I am extremely sensitive especially with people I love and respect. Because their opinions about me seem to matter more than anything. When I find that someone doesn't like me it gets under my skin because I don't understand what I did wrong and I tend to want to fix it. I can be a bit irrational at times and very dramatic when I'm upset or angry. But as time passes I get over it and realize just how irrational I was being and I apologize to whoever I was arguing with. I'm extremely territorial over the people I love, my belongings, and my personal space.

If anyone hurts something that I feel belongs to me or is apart of my life I instantly become protective and I get all momma bear on that person or situation. I try to help my friends, family, or even people I barely know because I hate to see someone sad, or feeling helpless. I support my friends and family in what they do even if I don't agree with their decisions. Which is hard for me to do because I like to control my environment and sometimes the people in it although I know I can't do that.

I'm a constant talker, and there are no boundaries with me when it comes to topics. I'll talk about anything as long as the other person is comfortable with it. I rarely know when to shut up and I'll talk and talk and talk until I realize my lungs are screaming for air. I surround myself with people who aren't much like me I noticed, like most of my friends aren't as talkative as I am and aren't emotionally vocal.

I tend to get emotionally attached to people that I don't know that well. And I really don't know where that comes from. It's just that when I meet someone I instantly try to get to know them and sense if they're a good person or bad person(I tend to be a bit judgmental at in the first impressions). My friends and family are everything to me and I'll do anything for them even putting their needs before mine. Which I tend to do a lot and I am forced into reminding myself that I should put myself first sometimes.
I just got tired of writing about myself....

[metalme]

I really don't know much about my type I just read through all sixteen and found myself to relate more with ESFJ's. And then I took a personality test and found I was still a ESFJ. I won't to explain but I suck at talking about myself, I end up just rambling. But to start, I am extremely sensitive especially with people I love and respect. Because their opinions about me seem to matter more than anything. When I find that someone doesn't like me it gets under my skin because I don't understand what I did wrong and I tend to want to fix it. I can be a bit irrational at times and very dramatic when I'm upset or angry. But as time passes I get over it and realize just how irrational I was being and I apologize to whoever I was arguing with. I'm extremely territorial over the people I love, my belongings, and my personal space.

If anyone hurts something that I feel belongs to me or is apart of my life I instantly become protective and I get all momma bear on that person or situation. I try to help my friends, family, or even people I barely know because I hate to see someone sad, or feeling helpless. I support my friends and family in what they do even if I don't agree with their decisions. Which is hard for me to do because I like to control my environment and sometimes the people in it although I know I can't do that.

I'm a constant talker, and there are no boundaries with me when it comes to topics. I'll talk about anything as long as the other person is comfortable with it. I rarely know when to shut up and I'll talk and talk and talk until I realize my lungs are screaming for air. I surround myself with people who aren't much like me I noticed, like most of my friends aren't as talkative as I am and aren't emotionally vocal.

I tend to get emotionally attached to people that I don't know that well. And I really don't know where that comes from. It's just that when I meet someone I instantly try to get to know them and sense if they're a good person or bad person(I tend to be a bit judgmental at in the first impressions). My friends and family are everything to me and I'll do anything for them even putting their needs before mine. Which I tend to do a lot and I am forced into reminding myself that I should put myself first sometimes.
I just got tired of writing about myself....

What about your less appealing characteristics???

[The Darling]

Agh, THOSE. I was in a 'happy' mood last night so I guess I didn't want to dwell on them. I can be angry just as much as I am a happy person. If someone I idolized or loved and I get into a conflict, which they or I have started I end up feeling bad about myself beliving I was an idiot to place them so high on a pedestal to think they wouldn't fall. Or maybe I'm a horrible person for starting the conflict. I tend to be....yeaaah I'm not feeling very paragraph-y right now. Especially in talking about my faults which I think can be understandable.

-I get jealous if one of my friends or family begins to talk to 'outiside' people rather then me
- I tend to be up and down with my emotions I can be happy, angry, or sad in a moments notice
- I talk too much about shit that doesn't matter and sometimes get annoyed when people don't see that I'm the one who is "right". Although I have been getting better with this over the years because I can't always be right and other people have different beliefs and views than I do

-__- I'm on my phone and I'm having trouble. I'll have to edit and whatnot once I get to a computer. So sorry if it's all over the place.

[rd93]

I tend to get emotionally attached to people that I don't know that well. And I really don't know where that comes from.

Yea I never understood that. If I get a momentary glimpse of someone interesting they can make a weird impression on me. I finally saw this puzzling yet personal tendency come to light in written form when I was reading Yukio Mishima's Confessions of A Mask, in which he describes some weird emotional attachments he's had to things throughout his life. It was like reading my own thoughts.

[lenabelle]

I really don't know much about my type I just read through all sixteen and found myself to relate more with ESFJ's. And then I took a personality test and found I was still a ESFJ. I won't to explain but I suck at talking about myself, I end up just rambling. But to start, I am extremely sensitive especially with people I love and respect. Because their opinions about me seem to matter more than anything. When I find that someone doesn't like me it gets under my skin because I don't understand what I did wrong and I tend to want to fix it. I can be a bit irrational at times and very dramatic when I'm upset or angry. But as time passes I get over it and realize just how irrational I was being and I apologize to whoever I was arguing with. I'm extremely territorial over the people I love, my belongings, and my personal space.

If anyone hurts something that I feel belongs to me or is apart of my life I instantly become protective and I get all momma bear on that person or situation. I try to help my friends, family, or even people I barely know because I hate to see someone sad, or feeling helpless. I support my friends and family in what they do even if I don't agree with their decisions. Which is hard for me to do because I like to control my environment and sometimes the people in it although I know I can't do that.

I'm a constant talker, and there are no boundaries with me when it comes to topics. I'll talk about anything as long as the other person is comfortable with it. I rarely know when to shut up and I'll talk and talk and talk until I realize my lungs are screaming for air. I surround myself with people who aren't much like me I noticed, like most of my friends aren't as talkative as I am and aren't emotionally vocal.

I tend to get emotionally attached to people that I don't know that well. And I really don't know where that comes from. It's just that when I meet someone I instantly try to get to know them and sense if they're a good person or bad person(I tend to be a bit judgmental at in the first impressions). My friends and family are everything to me and I'll do anything for them even putting their needs before mine. Which I tend to do a lot and I am forced into reminding myself that I should put myself first sometimes.
I just got tired of writing about myself....

I agreed with every single thing you wrote, even the weird things you described that you couldn't explain yourself. I agree with it all. O_O Especially the part about judging whether people are good or bad people. I think I usually have terrible intuition about most things in life (I can't make decisions to save my life), yet when it comes to people, I have this gut feeling about whether they're a good, trustworthy person or not when I meet them and then I treat them accordingly. My gut feeling is rarely wrong. I ignored it once and that was the one and only time I got stabbed in the back by someone I thought was a friend.

Even the things you listed in a later post as bad qualities are things I know about myself too. I'm very possessive about my friends and family. I definitely have a jealous streak that's been a problem in my relationship lately. :-/ I can also be pretty stubborn, and I often have incredible waves of loneliness when I feel like I have no one around to listen to my problems. I'm a perfectionist and a control freak too.

[metalme]

...and I often have incredible waves of loneliness when I feel like I have no one around to listen to my problems.

Do you need to verbalize your problems to sort through them? What if you write a blog/journal for example...

[lenabelle]

Do you need to verbalize your problems to sort through them? What if you write a blog/journal for example...

Yupp, I actually do keep blogs and journals. I've kept a journal since I was 6, and I have several blogs. All of that really helps when I just need to say something but there's no one around to say it to.

[The Darling]

@rd93 I never heard of that book before, I might have to check it out I'm glad you mentioned it. And it isn't just with people that I get emotionally attached to. I'm also really sentimental. If I do something with someone I will automatically think of that person the next time I do that activity. I get attached to objects too if I've had them for a very long time, it'll be very hard for me to let them go without thinking I lost a part of myself. Weird, I know.
@lenabelle Agh, my emotions run everything that I do. I wish that I could look at things from a detached standpoint and just solve it rationally without immediately consulting my damn heart. I'm glad that I could relate to someone with that post! :)

[The Darling]

I double posted and now I can't delete it ;\