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This is a discussion on ENTP/INTJ Romantic Relationships within the ENTP Forum- The Visionaries forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; I'm sure something along these lines has been posted before, but as an ENTP I'd rather start something new than ...

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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    ENTP/INTJ Romantic Relationships

    I'm sure something along these lines has been posted before, but as an ENTP I'd rather start something new than walk the well trodden lanes of social conformity.

    As I've stated before I've been married to a INFJ for about 10 years. The marriage is over for all practical purposes and we're just waiting for some financial stuff before we put the legal stake in the institution. That should happen Q1 2012.

    I'm ready to move on, and while my 1st personality preference would be a ISFP, I recently ran into a INTJ through work that may be an option for a relationship. She is recently divorced and in business situations we get along well and work well together.

    We recently flirted a little and I rather enjoyed it. I'm not sure if a INTJ is a good thing or a bad thing for a ENTP, so I was looking for the crew's thoughts.

    Thanks in advance.



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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    I hope you both have thick skin. I think a relationship benefits from one F unless both Ts are more mature and have developed their F side..

    I have never been with an INTJ (and am looking for them everywhere!), but I was in a relationship with an INTP for a while. She was all about "stream of consciousness". It made rational sense and I gave it a try too. We were 18. This was a bad idea. Hormones + stream of consciousness = lots of callous comments and people getting their feelings hurt.

    EDIT: I should add this was probably due to our immaturity at the time. And us both being Ps meant we'd easily get off track. I'm really curious what an INTJ partner would be like, but where are all the female INTJs?
    Last edited by JohnGalt; 11-06-2011 at 04:40 PM.
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    I met a guy who I think is an INTJ, and for a while he wanted to get into a relationship with me! I don't know if I want to or not because he never brings up his own conversations, I always have to start something and sometimes he doesn't even give a clear answer. Im finding this really frustrating when trying to get to know him, especially since he's attractive!

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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    I'm a female ENTP dating a male INTJ. INTJ is probably my best match. I think we just relate to each other really well, and also compliment each other well. They are more organized and structured, where as I am not and in a relationship we really balance each other out. Because INTJ and ENTP are shadows of each other, we have all 8 functions covered, and in the same order.

    What it really comes down to though is maturity. Two people of any type can have a successful, happy, fulfilling relationship if they are mature and can communicate openly.
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    As an INTJ female, I'm pretty sure ENTP's are my match. But I'm only 19 (close to 20), though, so it's very likely that my opinions will change later on.

    This is just an observation, but I feel like ENTP men are more attracted to INFJ's when their young and want someone to confide in, but as they age and stabilize more, they slowly prefer INTJ's as the F-ness gets a little tiring. I have a lot of INFJ friends, both males and females, and I'm not so sure if I can really depend on them for rational, logical conversations without worrying about hurting their feelings.

    So, like @JohnGalt said, if both INTJ and ENTP have developed their F side, I think they'd be a great match. My strong INFJ past frustrates my current self, but at least I'm in tune with feelings now and hopefully meet an ENTP later on with a developed F as well. :)
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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    Quote Originally Posted by DMack View Post
    I'm sure something along these lines has been posted before, but as an ENTP I'd rather start something new than walk the well trodden lanes of social conformity.

    As I've stated before I've been married to a INFJ for about 10 years. The marriage is over for all practical purposes and we're just waiting for some financial stuff before we put the legal stake in the institution. That should happen Q1 2012.

    I'm ready to move on, and while my 1st personality preference would be a ISFP, I recently ran into a INTJ through work that may be an option for a relationship. She is recently divorced and in business situations we get along well and work well together.

    We recently flirted a little and I rather enjoyed it. I'm not sure if a INTJ is a good thing or a bad thing for a ENTP, so I was looking for the crew's thoughts.

    Thanks in advance.
    It could be nothing short of perfect. There is a naturally occurring mutual admiration and respect between the two. Strengths and weaknesses playfully balancing each other at various points, each drawing energy and solace from the other. There is also something edgy about this combination that seems to promote intensity and interest without being overwhelming, probably because of the independent nature of both types. Intellectually, the INTJ is a stabilizing force for the ENTP. The ENTP finds a consistent challenge in this intellect, keeping the interest always at peak. Of course, you'll probably never see any mush or goo, but the intimacy will be incredible without the need for spoken affection.

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    My interest in the ENTP male is quite strong, even though I have never been in a relationship with them, I have known some to be really good friends and from what i know of we can be either really good friends or the worst of enemies. I imagine that a romantic relationship can be very intense because even as friends we are always challenging each other in some playful way, having some kind of intense conversation, and I also like it that we seem to feed off each other. The disaster side of it would probably be just as intense as a friendship/romance because we could also be arch enemies who are always arguing, making some sort of callous comments at each other, and trying to one-up each other it would also depend on how high the immaturity level would be because an INTJ can be stubborn, repressive, and think that they are above everything/everybody and an ENTP can be the type that just does not know when to quit and can annoy people just because they enjoy how the person looks when they are annoyed and getting pissed off and may keep bugging them until there is a fist fight. For it to really become a romantic relationship, I would have to say for these types to just start off as friends and then let it become more if both see a possibility of the relationship turning romantic.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by infinitia View Post
    This is just an observation, but I feel like ENTP men are more attracted to INFJ's when their young and want someone to confide in, but as they age and stabilize more, they slowly prefer INTJ's as the F-ness gets a little tiring. I have a lot of INFJ friends, both males and females, and I'm not so sure if I can really depend on them for rational, logical conversations without worrying about hurting their feelings.
    Fact: It works both ways. Feelers toughen up as/when they mature.
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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    Quote Originally Posted by Collective83 View Post
    Fact: It works both ways. Feelers toughen up as/when they mature.
    I'm an ENTP female in a very happy marriage with an INTJ man. It is indeed ideal, and I think part of the reason is because we met in our late 30's, and had developed our F sides considerably. I have had enough life experience to truly appreciate his stability and organizational skills, and he claims that I am helping smooth out his social and family life in ways that he always wanted but never dreamed possible.

    I think my favorite part of the relationship is that the conversations are fascinating and never-ending. We never run out of things to talk about, and we're both so enthusiastic about various intellectual pursuits that we can't wait to share our experiences. I highly recommend this combination- many of my friends are INTJs as well.
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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    I dated an INTJ for six months - and I could have seen it being my first long term relationship, had he been a little more mature. He was very intelligent, very advanced in his studies - but very young, a virgin, and I was his first girlfriend. He acted maturely, but he knew very little about other people and relationships. While he was excellent at talking and communicating his ideas and jokes, he wasn't very good at communicating his honest thoughts and feelings.

    Having said that - give him a few years of practice and I could definitely see him being my ideal SO.

    I'm seeing an INTJ (I think) at the moment, who is a couple of years older than the last. He's still young, but he's a lot more mature than the first in a lot of ways.

    I think INTJ are my ideal type romantically - much more than any INFJs or ISFPs I've met. ISFPs and INFJs make some of the best friends, though, IMO. INTJs just have to understand other people and how to communicate with them for the relationship to work.
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