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This is a discussion on The ENTP Gentleman's Field Guide to Seducing INFJ Females within the ENTP Forum- The Visionaries forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Dearest Honorable Sirs -- This thread is for us ENTPs who are pursuing, stalking, observing or otherwise interested in our ...

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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    The ENTP Gentleman's Field Guide to Seducing INFJ Females

    Dearest Honorable Sirs --

    This thread is for us ENTPs who are pursuing, stalking, observing or otherwise interested in our elusive female INFJ quarries.

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    I understand that there are other threads which touch upon this specific topic:
    In Hot Pursuit of INFJ Woman
    ENTP and INFJ
    INFJ + ENTP

    But this thread is specifically for ENTP males pursuing INFJ females. This thread also assumes that you've already found an INFJ female and have gotten her number, a first date, or otherwise built some kind of rapport with her.

    Therefore, discuss specific tactics and experiences regarding the following:

    1. How to get an INFJ female to trust and open up to an ENTP male? (Don't get lazy and just say "patience" -- give me specifics on what you did and how it worked out)

    2. How to not get bored/frustrated at INFJ females' glacial pace of opening up?

    3. How to remain sensitive to INFJ females but not turn into a total emotional pussy (i.e. stay faithful to our genuine ENTP tendencies)? In other words, what are ways you balance being emotionally sensitive enough to an INFJ female but stay as kick-ass as possible?

    4. How to approach the issue of a relationship (if at all)?

    5. How to approach the issue of sex? (i.e. how to balance our need to get laid now with INFJ female sensitivities)

    6. Anything else you'd like to add to the compendium of ENTP males' seduction theory regarding INFJ females.


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    Bon voyage!



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    INTP - The Thinkers

    *waits patiently fidgeting*
    hmmm
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    What?....

    I got to keep my eye on this one, definitely gonna be a good show.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by kudi View Post
    What?....

    I got to keep my eye on this one, definitely gonna be a good show.
    *nudges and whispers* I couldn't agree more. I'm really hoping one of my female counterparts chimes in. I'd love to get their reaction to the OP. ;o)

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    ENTP - The Visionaries


    *stands in the hallway listening intently*
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    ENTP - The Visionaries


    I had an experience with an INFJ once I'm sure if she sees me again she'll attack me with whatever object she can grasp. They're a different kind of crazy but I love crazy I love her she however needed to find herself and I gave her some space. Oh well she likes to disappear I'm sure I'll hear of her again but until then I'm on the search.

    What I'm really wondering is where is the INFJ habitat?

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    INFP - The Idealists

    What makes the INFJ female so desirable?
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    ENTP - The Visionaries


    Quote Originally Posted by LaLiLuLeLo View Post
    What makes the INFJ female so desirable?
    they compliment us well, also we tend to be magnets to one another.
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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    1. Quality time. Just spend genuine quality time with them. As you spend more time together, you will automatically build trust provided you don't lie a lot during the time spent. Let things happen at their natural pace. Let the conversation flow naturally from one thing to the next and don't make it seem like you are prying. Quality time == talking btw, so movie doesn't count. Make sure quality time is also fun! To speed the process up, go some place that opinion sharing is the norm (like an art museum or something). If you actually care about her opinions, she will sense that and open up more and more like a blossoming flower. Epic.

    2. HOBBIES! And, just worry about having fun with them. Make her get out of her own head and just have fun. She might resent it at first, but she will appreciate it later. If you both are having fun, then you'll want to spend more time without the immediate need for her to open up.

    3. Just be yourself. Me personally, my mind flies to all sorts of things including poetry. Instead of keeping that poetry inside, I just recite it and that shows emotional sensitivity and vulnerability. Then your mind will go to something else, so follow it. You'll be mysterious, truthful, sensitive, and alluring all in one.

    4. Why label things? Just chill out with it. As you two spend more quality time, it will become apparent what the nature of the relationship is. Just go with the flow. You won't have to approach the issue.

    5. See above. Also, I don't have that constant need to get laid. Currently, I'm having this kind of crisis about my own sex life. On the one hand, I'd like to have sex with someone I care about. On the other hand, I don't really feel like building that connection right now. So, I don't have much sex currently and I don't much care. You have a hand bro.

    6. Just go with it. Be yourself and it'll all work out in the end. No need for any of these methods. Just feel it out and you'll be fine.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    ooooh, quite an interesting set of questions. :) i guess i'll give it a go, but i'm only speaking for myself.

    1. How to get an INFJ female to trust and open up to an ENTP male? (Don't get lazy and just say "patience" -- give me specifics on what you did and how it worked out)

    hmmm...this is really tricky. usually with other types i have less to no problems opening up. but i gotta say...you ENTP's sure know how to make a girl swooon...

    use that serious wit of yours to crack jokes. it will seriously tickle me to the bones. try to tone down the arguing. it can be quite intimidating to an INFJ whose natural propensity is towards peace. the conversation will end up very one sided, with you doing most of the talking. (this is during the beginning stages of course, once we're comfortable with you, be prepared for some serious verbal sparring! lol) ask us questions. i know immature ENTP's can be quite self-centered. we'd most likely let you indulge in your opinions and thoughts and more likely walk away from the conversation.

    don't give her any indication that you are not taking the relationship, even if its just "getting to know one another", as a trivial sort of thing. i know ENTP's can be quite ADHD and jump from one conversation with somebody to another. it might give us the impression that you are a playboy or attention seeking.

    and i cannot believe i'm revealing this...i think, and this is just my opinion. i think in every INFJ, very well hidden away...there is a girl/woman who wants someone to make us feel truly special. we hardly ever cater to ourselves, so when someone comes along and looks at us like we're special or different (in a good way)...it can really catch our attention, trust you, and ultimately...open up.

    2. How to not get bored/frustrated at INFJ females' glacial pace of opening up?

    LOL. i know we can be quite challenging. and i'm perplexed as to why ENTP's, with your charisma and charm and brilliance, would even take the time to get to know us. i don't know what sort of advice i can offer that would help to increase your interest...perhaps the idea that one day if the relationships is a long and fruitful one, you'll have a companion who will cheer for you and support your dreams and ideas like no one else.

    3. How to remain sensitive to INFJ females but not turn into a total emotional pussy (i.e. stay faithful to our genuine ENTP tendencies)? In other words, what are ways you balance being emotionally sensitive enough to an INFJ female but stay as kick-ass as possible?

    you ENTP's are just so funny. my father is an ENTP and to this day, when i give him hugs, his expression always turns to something between constipated and i want to hit you. LOL. sometimes i have to FORCE it on him. like come here you!! you are getting a hug from me!!!

    anyway, i can say that mature INFJ's are quite adept with dealing with our emotions. as our Ti (?) develops. but please for the love of god, if an INFJ gets upset because of something you said or did, the best thing you can do is JUST SHUT UP and STOP whatever it is that is making us upset. PLEASE. you don't have to turn into a total wuss for us, we like that you guys are so strong and rough around the edges, but we also want to know that you care enough not to want to INTENTIONALLY (key here) hurt us. we want you to be yourselves, but please allow us to be ourselves.

    4. How to approach the issue of a relationship (if at all)?
    Definitely make the first move. LOL. i'm so risk averse when it comes to this sort of thing. personally, and i think this goes for most INFJ's, I HATE DATING. its so nerve wracking and awkward and impersonal. best thing, get a few drinks in me, get to know me, and if i start showing really subtle signs that i like you, it means I REALLY LIKE YOU A LOT! then by all means, make a move!

    5. How to approach the issue of sex? (i.e. how to balance our need to get laid now with INFJ female sensitivities)
    please read above. drinks. get to know me. MAKE A MOVE! and if we really like you...you'll be surprised by how we respond. :)

    6. Anything else you'd like to add to the compendium of ENTP males' seduction theory regarding INFJ females.
    i definitely do agree that there is this weird magnetic attraction (more like gravitational pull) between mature ENTP's and mature INFJ's. its quite fascinating. and a very profound experience. that's it for now i guess...


 

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