[Istbkleta]

So, interesting controversial topic. Which makes it even more interestingl.

I do NOT condone cheating. But we are all human and life can be pretty long.

So ... Share your insights and practical experience on HOW TO.
The assumption is you want to keep the relationship and just have fun on the side - nothing serious!

The good and the bad. So the rest of us can learn.

WARNING: If you want to flame and say that's immoral, God will punish you, blah blah - go to another thread. This one is not for you. And hiding it well is actually protecting other people's feelings.

Share anything - from use a separate email, phone number, bank account, out-of-town, etc.



Anybody dare post here with good advice?

Can we educate ourselves and become the most clandestine cheaters in the world?

[altoid]

what about just being open and honest from the get go? Then there's no hiding or manipulating, all you'll manage to do is get them to hide their angry and jealousy while you ignore it.

[MissJordan]

"Don't be an idiot."

That right there; is a practical guide to everything.

[altoid]

"Don't be an idiot."

That right there; is a practical guide to everything.

ugh, some days that's just too much to ask

[Istbkleta]

what about just being open and honest from the get go? Then there's no hiding or manipulating, all you'll manage to do is get them to hide their angry and jealousy while you ignore it.

Dude, I am sorry

But did you just said that people are supposed to appreciate honestly? On a MBTI forum?

OK. So this is a practical guide on HOW TO @MissJordan. I thought I made it clear to stay out if you are going to judge or offend. Thank you for your "contribution". If you intend to keep posting, please avoid the word IDIOT.

Btw, I am practicing my Fi (pretty proud of myself ).
This is the way a lot of (not all!) ENFPs might react to your comment. Are we OK or you'd prefer to go some other thread? Because I personally can go without your "advice".

Now anybody has anything real to share?

[OneiricEntropy]

Different zip codes.

One of them must know that it is just about sex so that you don't have to reassure two people's emotions... one is enough.

[Empecinado]

I don't usually enter relationships because I don't especially want to commit unless she was absolutely awesome and constantly peeked my interest. I have had three girls within close proximity and they were all competing against each other. I found that the first time I didn't know what to do but I found out eventually that I should (subtly depending on the circumstances) introduce them to each other, let them growl at each other (depending if they have an aggressive personality) and make sure I am separate/de-attached from the entire situation (not accountable/fire is not directed at me). You have to arrange the "verbal/unspoken contract" in such a way that "things" might happen without any sort of incident and has no effect on you. Although organising those circumstances aren't always easy. There are so many women stay with men that do a lot worse.

I think you want to avoid some hormonal, crazed woman storming into your apartment and smashing up your Xbox. People can be very unpredictable.

[Kr3m1in]

Just do it like you mean it.
If you're going to be all shaky and paranoid about it then any woman will tell.
Just own it. Don't get creepily affectionate to compensate, many people make that mistake.
Don't make up an overly dramatic story either.
Everything you do, just own it and sell it.
Is all.

[Istbkleta]

@Kr3m1in

If you liked men I'd probably sleep with you just to listen to what you have to say :)

Is it true you have a better developed Fi than most of us here?

[bigtex1989]

Cheat with people that hate your SO
Don't project emotions
Tell stories like Dan Brown. Complete fiction with enough facts to make people believe it happened.
Don't change your demeanor. If you feel guilty about it, then don't cheat or you will get caught.
Cheat with people who are outside of your SOs circle of friends
Make sure the person you cheat with is better friends with you than your SO
Misdirect suspicions
Never overreact to accusations
Play it cool