It is not ideal. It is perfectly fucked-up so the ENTP will not get bored so easily. I love confrontation and being so passive (INFJ) is hmm so different.Does it have something to do with the fact that you may have had hard feelings towards an ENTP because the chemistry was there, but the situation didn't play itself out so you got defiant towards the "ENTP/INFJ Ideal" stereotype?
There is no such thing as "ideal whatever". And yes I do agree it is easier to blame something that has been sold as an ideal then look at your own problems. For me well rounded INFx is interesting enough, but well never ideal. I got over this sickness called perfection and I'm definitely happier now.I guess my point here is that we put so much emphasis on personality types, but if that person isn't ok with themselves, (I know that sounds cliche) or is bringing baggage into the situation, then the whole "Ideal match" wouldn't make a difference and would only leave you pushing blame towards those predicting the ideal match.
Let's talk about both sides in my mind it takes Fe and Ti to really enjoy this match.Personally, I have crazy chemistry with INFJ's, but they take an ENTP who is patient towards the INFJ's feelings and emotions, and respectful and appreciative of the added order the INFJ brings to the ENTP's world. That's certainly not something you're born with...it's something you develop.
Yeah I think they may even know this but in real world ;) Sensitive side hmm, well does something like that exist? Too much meditation and I probably lost it... oh well...Likewise, it takes a self confident INFJ to realize that the lack of a reply message/text or seeming indifference was no reflection on them, as well as the understanding and patience towards the ENTP's wild heart and carefully guarded sensitive side.
restrained bluntness Lucky you or them. I'm not sure. Restraining what I love just made me depressed. Hope you were not as much in love with confrontation as I'm. The small thing that changed is - nowadays I know with whom I can give it a real shot. Most people are just not worth it.I was fortunate to be the only "Ti" in a family full of feelers, so I know how to react to emotions and have learned to restrain my confrontational side. My family has also learned to appreciate my bluntness.
Love this one have to get in touch with my INTP friend to discuss that ;)In the perfectionist world of the INFJ, sometimes it's difficult to see someone who stretches you to truly be what's best, but from my experience, I have no reason to doubt the "ideal pairing" logic thus far.