I am an INFJ and in my past I met an ENTP who was not rude, but less sensitive to the feelings of others. He was kind of sweet to me, of course, maybe because he knew I was kind of shy? I have no clue why, to be honest.
But anyways, he was always kind of nice. He would sometimes give me advice about things or in rare cases indirectly tell me that I should be less sensitive about things. However, there was a period of time where we didn't have any classes together and we didn't really get a chance to talk. It kind of faded from there.
Eventually I messaged him, and asked him if he was angry with me. He replied: "um no, i don't know why I would be, I don't think we have talked in like a year" I know I have this emotional side to me, but doesn't it seem kind of callous?--compared to how sweet he was before.
There's more to it: He works at a library and sometimes he hears my conversations with people where recently I have become more outspoken. I don't want to revert back to being overly shy. I mean, I'm still shy, but not with my deep friends who I talk to at the library and if he overhears my personality, what can I do about that? I can't do anything because it's me, and I can't change that. I feel like he doesn't think I'm genuine anymore. I have grown out of a large part of my shyness, does it mean that he can only be friendly to the innocent girl in the past?
What did I do wrong, and how can I make it right? Someone help me to see this in a perspective that makes sense.
Thanks in advance.