i just left my ENTP at the airport :-(

**scude** · 05-26-2011 07:13 AM

D'aww I'm sooooorryy, saying goodbye DOES suck major balls.

Where do ya live if he's in Aussieland, and do you have a possibility of living in near proximity to each other in the future? (The romantic in me taking over.)

**Kr3m1in** · 05-26-2011 09:15 AM

@angelictroublemaker He is ENTP. We find ways to make things happen.
he doesn't have time, he'll make time, he doesn't have money- he'll donate plazma/street perform/sell cocaine, but he'll find a way to randomly appear.
Sneak into a plane if all else fails.

If I were you, I'd be excited. I mean I get the bittersweet, but don't lose sight of the above.

**Kelly617** · 05-26-2011 09:28 AM

Originally Posted by Kr3m1in

@angelictroublemaker He is ENTP. We find ways to make things happen.
he doesn't have time, he'll make time, he doesn't have money- he'll donate plazma/street perform/sell cocaine, but he'll find a way to randomly appear.
Sneak into a plane if all else fails.

If I were you, I'd be excited. I mean I get the bittersweet, but don't lose sight of the above.

Seconded! ENTP's have a way of getting what they want. So if he wants you, you're still in his line of sight for sure. Oh, and I don't know if this is ENTP-ish or just me-specific, but if you do ever get the chance to hop on a plane and go to see him, I wouldn't worry too much about whether or not he'll be put out by it. I love random visits and spontaneous drop-by's, and when people do come to see me from miles away, I always make a point of working them into my day. It's great fun and such a wonderful opportunity to reconnect.

<3 surprises! :D

**Runvardh** · 05-26-2011 10:24 AM

I still have pangs of withdrawal when I think of two ENTPs I knew. One was a supervisor and the other was a roommate - both were some of the most amazing people I've met.

**angelictroublemaker** · 05-26-2011 01:54 PM

Originally Posted by scude

D'aww I'm sooooorryy, saying goodbye DOES suck major balls.

Where do ya live if he's in Aussieland, and do you have a possibility of living in near proximity to each other in the future? (The romantic in me taking over.)

Originally Posted by Katya00

huh. I might be some odd exception but I won't give up on relationships. I'll go for the LDR and try to make it work...I figure if 2 people are really right together it will work :) And I hate having regrets!

I'm in a LDR right now. We live in the same country though, only states apart. He wasn't interested at first because of the distance but he came around! We have all the normal bumps that relationships have but in general we're very happy.

How far apart are you? Australia is basically on the other side of the world from everywhere else though haha

16,780.34 kilometres ;-)

I don't think it's impossible and I don't like giving up on relationships either. What are your suggestions to help "make it work?"

**angelictroublemaker** · 05-26-2011 01:59 PM

Originally Posted by Kr3m1in

@angelictroublemaker He is ENTP. We find ways to make things happen.
he doesn't have time, he'll make time, he doesn't have money- he'll donate plazma/street perform/sell cocaine, but he'll find a way to randomly appear.
Sneak into a plane if all else fails.

If I were you, I'd be excited. I mean I get the bittersweet, but don't lose sight of the above.

Originally Posted by Kelly617

Seconded! ENTP's have a way of getting what they want. So if he wants you, you're still in his line of sight for sure. Oh, and I don't know if this is ENTP-ish or just me-specific, but if you do ever get the chance to hop on a plane and go to see him, I wouldn't worry too much about whether or not he'll be put out by it. I love random visits and spontaneous drop-by's, and when people do come to see me from miles away, I always make a point of working them into my day. It's great fun and such a wonderful opportunity to reconnect.

<3 surprises! :D

Thank you! :-D I like your thinking muchly.

It's funny, a couple of times (like his birthday) I tried to plan suprises for him...but then he started suggesting to friends they go out..so I spoilt it and spilt the beans. Not very good at lying, me!

So the conclusion is, I start saving for a flight, and turn up randomly unannounced?

**Kyle Looney** · 05-26-2011 03:11 PM

lol My best friend is an ENTP. We've always said that if we ever dated, one of us would wind up in a pool of our own blood. 50/50 as to who that might be. It's interesting, really. She's very attractive, and I like to think of myself as handsome, but there has never been any sexual chemistry there. It's like we instinctively knew better. lol

**Kyle Looney** · 05-26-2011 03:13 PM

Originally Posted by angelictroublemaker

Thank you! :-D I like your thinking muchly.

It's funny, a couple of times (like his birthday) I tried to plan suprises for him...but then he started suggesting to friends they go out..so I spoilt it and spilt the beans. Not very good at lying, me!

So the conclusion is, I start saving for a flight, and turn up randomly unannounced?

Oh, if he likes you, he will NOT mind you just showing up. Guaranteed. We can be lackadaisical about keeping appointments anyway, so he'll just cancel with his friends if he has plans. Speaking as an ENTP, if a girl did this, I'd be wowed.

**little infinity** · 05-26-2011 03:16 PM

Goodbyes do suck. Especially airport goodbyes.

Just dealt with one a few days ago...

I personally do not believe in terminating relationships due to distance (says the girl who is currently in a 3,000 mile LDR

) Phone calls and Skype work magical wonders. I guess my logic is that if I want to be with this person so strongly that I'm not going to date anyone else since I'll just be holding out for him (subconciously or not), I might as well just be with him anyway, even if it's long distance. My heart would be on hold regardless.

Granted, we have the advantage of being in the same country with plane tickets not being unbearably expensive (although, since they're coast to coast, they are quite pricey-- but we are still able to see each other about once a month.) I'm not sure what the distance or cost would be like for you, and that's definitely something to consider.

p.s. we're an ENFP/INFJ duo, so I say do anything for that Ne+Ni magic. <3

**scude** · 05-27-2011 01:38 AM

Originally Posted by angelictroublemaker

16,780.34 kilometres ;-)

I don't think it's impossible and I don't like giving up on relationships either. What are your suggestions to help "make it work?"

I don't think there's anything specific that works for everyone but it depends on the two people involved. I personally wouldn't be involved in LDR if there wasn't a common goal - living together in the same city - as the goal. But it's pro cons analysis. Is it worth it? LDR's seem more serious because they require a sort of commitment from the get go that makes it serious.

I'm in one right now. He's 23, I'm 21. We both at least live in Europe and I'm going to spend the summer with him and he'll then move to the country next to mine for a year (doing his Master programme). But we won't living together say in the next 3 years. It's a long time, and these are some of our best years. And this is a monogamous relationship. This summer will show us a lot as well. (How will we tolerate each other for long periods of time together).

But if it's worth it, it's worth it.

Skype and phone, but be aware that it's going to be annoying. It's going to be difficult at times. When all you have are words it's easy to not remember the good thing behind the reason you're doing it. When there's no touch, no playing, no doing.

At least in the process you'll get closer to him because you two will be communicating so much. XD (And in our case, analysing.) But when we see each other... Yes. It is worth every single km.