Do you find yourself behaving differently around INFJs?

**Humilis Curator** · 02-13-2011 04:48 PM

I have a few friends who are ENTPs and they always calm way down when they are around me. I have thought this strange/interesting and was wondering if any other of you ENTPs have the same experience. Any other interactions with INFJs and how they went would be welcome and appreciated. I am curious as to how ENTPs interact with INFJs over a more broad population than just 4 ENTP friends.

**bigtex1989** · 02-13-2011 06:44 PM

We are really good at taking social cues, so if you seem pretty chill, we are going to be pretty chill. We are like little kids. We get riled up by some types, and some types relax us. The one INFJ I know is a pretty relaxed guy. When we hang out, it's usually over a beer, and we just kind of talk about girls in the bar. It's not really a huge deal. I'll go dare him to talk to one, after about 30 minutes of me saying "Bro, she's so into you!" he goes over and gets rejected. Pretty fun time. Then I usually bring over a couple girls and we all sit and talk for a bit.

**bloozie** · 02-13-2011 08:01 PM

I know of one INFJ girl. In the relationship scale she's more of a "thinking buddy" to me. Whenever we're working together in the same room... she would usually be quiet and focused on her work while I would be quiet for like 60% of the time, trying to focus on what I should be doing.
When we do interact and talk about things I see her as someone that would keep me in check. Not in a demanding way, but more like making me calm down whenever I come up with something radical. There's something about her that I like.. because she seems to like me back a lot. Heck, whenever I see her alone... I usually sneak up on her and try to scare her. It's hilarious. Also, I've noticed that she praises me for the deliverables that I come up with and becomes impressed by it.

**Mr.Xl Vii** · 02-13-2011 08:08 PM

yeah INFJs calm me down, but generally when it's in a one on one setting.

**RemiX** · 02-13-2011 08:54 PM

the main character is me as an ENTP, and when an INFJ friend (the mysterious man) approaches, it's almost like this:

infj have this ability to get into my mind and literally mess with it.

ps guy has the coolest phone ever, where can i find one like it!

**thegirlcandance** · 02-13-2011 09:26 PM

Originally Posted by Humilis Curator

I have a few friends who are ENTPs and they always calm way down when they are around me. I have thought this strange/interesting and was wondering if any other of you ENTPs have the same experience. Any other interactions with INFJs and how they went would be welcome and appreciated. I am curious as to how ENTPs interact with INFJs over a more broad population than just 4 ENTP friends.

I'm really looking forward to reading responses to this... just saying. I've had a variety of interesting experiences with ENTPs so I wonder what will come up...

I've had one tell me that he had the sudden urge to start an argument with me to see if he could win.

**possiBri** · 02-13-2011 10:00 PM

The only INFJ I know of (for sure) irl is my mother... when I was younger she could get me to be really creative, usually with words. However, as I got older and her over-protectiveness got to be too much I would definitely change around her. It gets annoying when you make a weird joke or laugh really hard at something and get accused of being high every time... "kidding" or not, that shit gets annoying. So basically I kinda clammed up around her and really just kinda avoided her. Most likely I'm sure this has to do with the parent-child relationship more than anything.

In general I've noticed that when I'm in the right mood I can definitely have a good conversation with her, but it is definitely more mellow – though the times I've seen my mom the loudest/hyped-up was when I was encouraging it (I've made her pee her pants laughing on several occasions)!

**vel** · 02-14-2011 12:22 AM

Originally Posted by thegirlcandance

I've had one tell me that he had the sudden urge to start an argument with me to see if he could win.

I've met and ENTP like that too. He would actually start small arguments with me and from what I observed of him in company of a few other people that was his specific reaction to me. I kind of wondered why he did it though

**ENTPreneur** · 02-14-2011 03:39 AM

Originally Posted by vel

I've met and ENTP like that too. He would actually start small arguments with me and from what I observed of him in company of a few other people that was his specific reaction to me. I kind of wondered why he did it though

Just because that is what we like in a person: Smartness, depth of mind, and wits. All show in a playful conversational argument. It is a token of respect and interest. At least from me.

**vel** · 02-14-2011 04:04 AM

Originally Posted by ENTPreneur

Just because that is what we like in a person: Smartness, depth of mind, and wits. All show in a playful conversational argument. It is a token of respect and interest. At least from me.

Yeah I figured it is a way of bonding for him, but still it is a bit weird for me when a person employs arguments to make friends