[scude]

How do you guys "know" how the relationship will pan out with someone after just say, 1 date? How does it happen? How confident are you in this assesment and has it been right usually?

I have been dating an ENTP and he seemed to have made up his mind about me pretty much during the first encounter. He told me he knows what he wants and that I am it. That it is hard for him to become interested in someone and yet I feel like he knew it even before he even really knew me.

What does love mean to an ENTP? It feels a bit like there's this sort of a list, and then check if the person matches. It feels a bit mechanical to me, but I want to understand this and the type better.

[Monte]

First of all, we're psychic.

And I hate that question because I think it's different for everyone and I find it very irrelevant. Why does it matter what it is? It's supposedly something amazing, but it can never be accurately explained because it's so different, so wait for it to happen and then analyze it.

[Onomatopoeia]

Personally speaking, I have never known how a relationship will pan out after just one date except for with my current SO. We had such a strong connection before even meeting in person (met online), and from the moment I saw him I knew I was about to have a lot of fun. After the first week, I knew that he is going to be a permanent fixture in my life. I finally understand what it means when people say "it hit me like a ton of bricks".

In the past, I was a lot more casual with my relationships. I was there to have fun but didn't want anything serious, so I didn't care about a strong connection or long term potential. After a while, I knew the relationship would start to go downhill. If I can't see myself with someone beyond a certain point (time, milestone, whatever you want to call it), then I end it. I used to think I was over analyzing more than I should have been for a relationship, so I wouldn't pay attention to the nagging urge that I was getting myself into trouble; I should have listened to the nagging urge.

As for lists, I didn't have that in the past; I just wanted someone who would live in the moment. Once I began wanting a serious relationship with maybe permanent potential, I made a list with some reasonable criteria. Mainly because it's just not cute dating a party boy with no goals at my age.

[tine]

I generally have no idea what I want from a relationships, so kind of just go along with what happens. I sometimes freak out when it gets too 'real' but generally I don't do relationships well.

[xrevolutionx]

I have intuition that is that strong. I meet girls here and there but don't really do anything until I feel that we're clicking. It's only then that I go out on a date with her, one on one. During that first date, I'm building a framework of who she is. I'm not trying to find out every detail of her live and aspirations, that's just nuts. I'm looking for the jist of who she is and see if it matches with me.

At the end of it, I'll know if it will work out. She won't know, however. I've been out with plenty of girls who had a blast on the first date only to never hear from me again. Yeah I'm jerk that way but it saves us both from the emotional trauma from a nasty break-up.

[yesiknowbut]

There's no list. or of there is, it's "one or more of the following": followed by about 200 possible characteristics.

I dunno.You just know. And you just know after a very short time. That's it. Don't fight it, unless you don't like him.

[ENTPreneur]

That is "intuition" for you: The small, small details in body language, choice of words and REACTIONS to what you say, topics of interest and - not unimportantly - humor. Personally, I almost never find people interesting or trustwprthy enough to let them in. Sexual "fun" is also hard for me because to me it is so intertwined with mental closeness and respect. No interesting mind - no sex, no matter how beautiful body. But that s just me.

My only "enemies" of sorts are very beautiful women who I have turned down (done with respect and honesty). I guess they arent that used to it.

Since it is a bother having to go through this a swell I am even more careful. But when I find an object deemed worthy of my appreciation and attention I am ridicilously interested. I decide to "invest" and open up. I "go for it". Whereas most people seem to just glide along for the ride and see what happens, perhaps not even reflecting over the long term prospects of the relationship.

This behaviour can seem arrogant, sudden, flimsy and bipolar, but it is just us deciding to be VERY interested in you and give you every opportunity to know us, just as we want to do the same to you. If we - on the way - find ahat we were mistaken and that the potential is low, then we might switch to "off-mode", all with the good intention of minimizing damage as quickly as possible. Do not confuse this with coldness or arrogance. It is how many of us show emotions and respect.

[spoonforkknife]

I have intuition that is that strong. I meet girls here and there but don't really do anything until I feel that we're clicking. It's only then that I go out on a date with her, one on one.

This^^^ Whether I'm in a "flirt with everyone" or a "just observe" phase there's actually very few girls I actually ever "talk" to. I also think I abuse punctuation marks.

[vel]

I have been dating an ENTP and he seemed to have made up his mind about me pretty much during the first encounter.

The two ENTP bosses that I've had hired me pretty much during the interview, without checking references or anything of that sort. It was pretty much like ok you're hired. Something I'd never do, I would rather spend the time after the interview analyzing and evaluating it, probably looking over the resume again, and only then call the person and tell them that they hired. Another ENTP guy decided to start making romantic advances pretty much after we had 3 conversations of completely non-romantic content. This did seem rather strange to me.

[WildWinds]

I have yet to meet somebody with whom I just "know" it will work out with. I'm good at knowing when it won't though!

But I think at this point, my intuition for such matters is a little whacked out for now. I can't seem to trust myself any more than I can trust other people. So even if there was somebody who I might get that feeling with, I don't think I'd be able to recognize it or be confident in it.