Love or Respect - which is greater?

**lady lisa** · 04-10-2010 07:47 PM

I am fascinated by you ENTP's. Tell me...which is greater...love or respect?...and do tell why.

**marked174** · 04-10-2010 07:51 PM

You cannot have one without the other; it is completely impossible.

**Nearsification** · 04-10-2010 07:56 PM

Originally Posted by marked174

You cannot have one without the other; it is completely impossible.

I don't understand why you cannot?

And I think Love is more important.

**Quin Sabe** · 04-10-2010 08:12 PM

If you love someone you should respect them. I would rather have someone's respect than love.
If you love me but treat me like crap. Your love doesn't matter to me.
Both is the goal, love me respect me.
If one is the only option I prefer universal respect over universal love.

**agokcen** · 04-10-2010 08:24 PM

As far as I'm concerned, they're largely synonymous. On the other hand, I can respect someone without loving him, but I cannot love him without respecting him, and I expect the same from others.

In my opinion, love is the highest form of respect.

**marked174** · 04-10-2010 08:42 PM

Originally Posted by Game Master Near

I don't understand why you cannot?

And I think Love is more important.

You can't love someone you don't respect, and you can't respect someone you don't love.
Many people mistake esteem as respect. Esteem is a perspective of someone else and respect is a decision made by you concerning others. Similarily many people mistake infatuation as love. Infatuation is an emotion regarding someone else and love, once again, is a decision made by you concerning others. It is worth noting that oftentimes one's esteem for another affects their respect for them, and one's infatuation for another affects their love for them.

**Peter** · 04-10-2010 08:46 PM

Originally Posted by marked174

You cannot have one without the other; it is completely impossible.

Which one?

Because I think it's easy to respect without loving, but loving without respecting is not possible. Anyone that says otherwise confuses love with lust.

**Quin Sabe** · 04-10-2010 08:50 PM

I believe you can love and not respect something.
They're independent, but work best together.

I can love something but still destroy it.
You can love someone but not have any respect for them.
They're many types of love; it's not always just romantic love.

**MOGwok** · 04-11-2010 11:13 AM

If it's not respect it was never love.

**Athena** · 04-11-2010 12:59 PM

I think you can definitely love without respect, I see it all the time. I prefer respect if I absolutely had to choose one because it drives positive behavior more. You can love and act badly toward someone at the same time but it is harder to mistreat someone you respect. Of course as others have said, they work best in tandem.