[Oldlady]

I come up with an idea. I think it's the best idea ever. I am really excited about my idea. And then...
"What? Um... no. That's really stupid! We're not doing that!"

I want to cry. I want to pin that **** down to the ground and smack her/him (it's usually a her).

I try to hold it together and defend my idea. The **** says, "What? Why does it have to be rhyming? That's so stupid." and I respond, "Why not?" The **** says, "I'd just like to point out that my plan does not involve mustaches," and I reply, "I'd say that's a negative."



But on the inside I am breaking down. My heart feels like it's burning. I want to just burst out into tears, or yell at them, "YOU CAN'T!!! WHY?!!! WHY?!!?!?!! WE ALWAYS GO WITH YOUR IDEAS!!!! WHY CAN'T I JUST HAVE ONE THING?!?!!!!!"

I can't deal with it. I don't understand... why doesn't anyone adopt my ideas? Why are people always tearing them down? It's not like they're bad ideas... I know that they're good. I always get positive feedback on my final project... people tell me it's cool, original, etc.

Has anyone else experienced this? It feels like the ultimate slap in the face. How do I convince others to listen to my ideas? I'm currently battling it out with another alpha type for creative control. Should I compromise, or just let her win and leave the group to do my idea alone?

[Nearsification]

Only when there being bias Or I am sure they are wrong.

[Quin Sabe]

Life sucks, The masses are asses, and Who are they to criticize.
In situations like that take a step back, it sounds like your challenging an already defined and in charge leader of a group of sheeple. The best way to take down a dictatorship or any ruling power is through a underground resistance. I wouldn't challenge them myself, I would build allies and minions then take on the ruling party, by undermining their subjects loyalty.

As for criticism I try to take it like foreign currency: a dinair from the masses is worth about $0.001169, but if it's a pound from someone well educated and trustworthy its worth $1.537.

[agokcen]

I don't know why you have so many problems with people not wanting to use your ideas. It usually works with me just to act authoritative - people generally listen. Maybe you simply live in a place filled with bitches and should move elsewhere.

[Darth Nihilus]

I don't really take rejection of my ideas as criticism. I give my input, let people do their own thing, and smile, laugh, and say, "I told you so.", when it doesn't work out. Then again, I'm twisted, and kind of find the misery of others to be a funny thing. Generally, if I know they're going to try things my way the next time, I switch it up and give them completely terrible input. I told them, that they should have listened to me the first time, not at any point after that.

[entperson]

When people criticize my ideas my initial reaction is to become defensive, but I never take the criticism in itself to heart. I may later reflect on some of what they've said and find weaknesses within my idea and then use it to build upon. For the most part I consider criticism to be a direct challenge, and it's not often you'll find me backing down from challenges.

[Quin Sabe]

I don't really take rejection of my ideas as criticism. I give my input, let people do their own thing, and smile, laugh, and say, "I told you so.", when it doesn't work out. Then again, I'm twisted, and kind of find the misery of others to be a funny thing. Generally, if I know they're going to try things my way the next time, I switch it up and give them completely terrible input. I told them, that they should have listened to me the first time, not at any point after that.

I like the way you think.

[notatumor]

It's all about your pitch. You can't expect a conservative place to go full blown radical immediately. Here is what I suggest:

Start small Small idea phase one

Ease into the mid zone Middle idea phase two if phase one is accepted

If you can get past the middle, go for the

BIG TIME(this will rarely happen)


You need to take your ideas and break them down into three phases and pitch from there. Going all crazy radical right off the bat will not work unless you are the director and it doesn't sound like you are.

[la musa candido]

When people criticize my ideas my initial reaction is to become defensive, but I never take the criticism in itself to heart. I may later reflect on some of what they've said and find weaknesses within my idea and then use it to build upon. For the most part I consider criticism to be a direct challenge, and it's not often you'll find me backing down from challenges.

i am the EXACT same way lol. but like if someone insults me i think it's the funniest thing in the world. that kind of thing i don't even challenge.i just think they made themselves look like a fool by not having the intelligence to put together truthful statements and proof for them. also, it shows their complete lack of security with themself. if anything, i'd just feel sorry for the guy...

[oneoutside]

Try taking a more analytical approach. First genuinely give their feedback a moment's consideration - this give you the chance to respond calmly, and it makes the other person feel respected as well, which is good for you. Are they totally pulling shit out their ass? Call them on it. Do they have a certain validity to their argument? Acknowledge it, and attempt to find somewhere you can agree on things. Don't always set yourself up as the antagonist, if you're just arguing everything (especially if you're getting emotional and too defensive), then no one will want to listen to you. Try to put your emotions aside, just for a moment, and realize what is the best way to respond to the situation. You'll find that your own good logic will shift your emotional reactions.

As for me, sensitivity to criticism depends on what I'm being criticized on, and who's doing the criticizing. If I'm presenting something that's really important to me, or that I'm really proud of, I'm putting my emotions on the line. If someone I admire criticizes me, it'll bum me out a bit, but more importantly it will instill determination to rise to the challenge and self-improve.