So after two years of being with my girlfriend (an ISFJ), the differences in our personality types are really starting to tear at the relationship. I'm an ENTP, and so I think it is worth the effort to try and fix the rifts that are growing between us, but I need all of your help!
If you're an ENTP who is, or has been in, a relationship with an ISFJ, let's talk a bit about how one might go about addressing these fundamental differences. For the most part I still appreciate her, love her, and want to be with her about 80% of the time.
Is it possible to have a successful relationship between an ENTP and and ISFJ? What are the best things to work on first to begin reconciling? How do I convince an ISFJ to become interested enough in the MBTI profiles, so that she will want to engage in analyzing our relationship on how to make it better (I totally realize that is an ENTP thing to do, not ISFJ)?
Some of the top of mind issues that are driving me nuts right now (I'll save detail for later....so not an ENTP thing to do):
1. Not being open with me about what is going on in her life
2. Wanting to care for me too much, and somewhat bullying me to how she thinks I should care for myself (for example how much water I drink)
3. Impatience with so many things
There are more, but I'll leave it there......please tell me some of what you've experienced too...since she is an I and wont tell me everything, I know there is more to what is bothering her, but I cant read everything from her actions.
Just for kicks, I'm going to post this in ISFJ land too, and see if I cant get some dual perspectives, which I will happily share here if the convo is appropriate.