[Jabberbroccoli]

Chwoey likes sexuh ashun girls.

[Feargarden]

So since I was little I was always very concerned over my sexuality. Was I straight, gay, bisexual or pansexual.

I've never actually dated a girl but I find the idea very interesting and desirable. I admit, I did feel like I was in love with a girl for a few years (unrequited love, or as some may say an obsession). At that time I started to have grand ideas of being some girls man. I mean like, the idea of protecting and providing for some lady. The thought of just wrapping my arms around some tiny girl and making her feel loved and protected was very desirable.

Now the conflicting thing about this is, though the idea of being with a girl is so great, I've only had one girl I've been seriously interested in.. and I've dated a lot of guys. Going as far as having sex with them on more than a few occasions.

As I'm sure more than a few of you guys are, I'm very open about many things. My sexuality included. If I feel comfortable with someone I can be VERY open about my sexual experiences (I like to think its not in a slutty way, but I don't really care if some consider it slutty). I like the conversations are interesting and I love to hear other people's opinions and sexual thoughts.

The thing is, I'm generally only comfortable talking about my experience and thoughts on heterosexual sexuality, and I get very uncomfortable and shy when talking about my lesbian thoughts and desires. I also am extremely picky with females (I find, maybe 1 in 30 extremely attractive and I want them to be mine, I disregard all other females), but I am not picky with males (I generally find most of them sufficient, and I am willing to date most, but I don't think of serious relationships with them). I never really thought much about it, but the fact is starting to make me wonder.

I'm really on the fence about this, what do you guys think?
Am I expressively open heterosexual experiences and topics because I am truly heterosexual and I idolize the idea of lesbian relationships... or am I shy and picky about girls(and the opposite with boys) because I am really a lesbian who just has attention whore issues and is willing to settle for any guy?

Considering I've never actually been with a girl, its hard for me to know which it is.. I'm just wondering what your first thought on it is..

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Chwoey,

This is obviously just my take, but here it goes:

This doesnt really sound like a debate within yourself about whether you are attracted to the idea of being with a woman. You are! You make that pretty clear with all the talk about how you want to experience being with a woman, even though you find yourself dating more men.

The question I would ask yourself is...... "

If I am sexually attracted to women more than men, or equally as much, am I comfortable with being open and honest about that fact?"

Since you seem to say that you have no feelings or real attraction to men, is your being with them (and as you say a lot of them) really just you trying to suppress that you have feelings about women, and are not comfortable about coming out of the closet to the world, or at this point even yourself?

Btw, I think just because you are more picky about which women you would want to be with, means very little. I know plenty of straight women who are just as picky and only find 1 in 100 men attractive. The question you have to answer to yourself is why do I want to engage in sexual relationships with men that I dont care about, rather than pursue women that I find myself seriously attracted to?

You can certainly date/have experiences with both sexes, but you are seriously resisting the urge to explore your desires for women. I'm wondering if you do not come from a religious upbringing in a conservative town? Your mom's decisive answer that "you are straight" indicates that at least she may have a religious background.

[MegaTuxRacer]

@chwoey For the record, I think you are a lesbian.

[aef8234]

try out a girl and find out.

But for now? Bicurious. Really hate putting labels, I get yelled at, a lot.

But I do love buttery tears.

[tanstaafl28]

I don't know Chwoey. I've always been into women. I never felt the level of comfort you seem to have with guys. I've joked about being a "Lesbian trapped in a man's body," but maybe your issue isn't sexuality, but gender identity. Maybe you feel more "female" than male.

[VivianeScrooge]

So since I was little I was always very concerned over my sexuality. Was I straight, gay, bisexual or pansexual.

I've never actually dated a girl but I find the idea very interesting and desirable. I admit, I did feel like I was in love with a girl for a few years (unrequited love, or as some may say an obsession). At that time I started to have grand ideas of being some girls man. I mean like, the idea of protecting and providing for some lady. The thought of just wrapping my arms around some tiny girl and making her feel loved and protected was very desirable.

Now the conflicting thing about this is, though the idea of being with a girl is so great, I've only had one girl I've been seriously interested in.. and I've dated a lot of guys. Going as far as having sex with them on more than a few occasions.

As I'm sure more than a few of you guys are, I'm very open about many things. My sexuality included. If I feel comfortable with someone I can be VERY open about my sexual experiences (I like to think its not in a slutty way, but I don't really care if some consider it slutty). I like the conversations are interesting and I love to hear other people's opinions and sexual thoughts.

The thing is, I'm generally only comfortable talking about my experience and thoughts on heterosexual sexuality, and I get very uncomfortable and shy when talking about my lesbian thoughts and desires. I also am extremely picky with females (I find, maybe 1 in 30 extremely attractive and I want them to be mine, I disregard all other females), but I am not picky with males (I generally find most of them sufficient, and I am willing to date most, but I don't think of serious relationships with them). I never really thought much about it, but the fact is starting to make me wonder.

I'm really on the fence about this, what do you guys think?
Am I expressively open heterosexual experiences and topics because I am truly heterosexual and I idolize the idea of lesbian relationships... or am I shy and picky about girls(and the opposite with boys) because I am really a lesbian who just has attention whore issues and is willing to settle for any guy?

Considering I've never actually been with a girl, its hard for me to know which it is.. I'm just wondering what your first thought on it is..

No...having bisexual thoughts is very common, more common that anyone might think. The media is overly sexual and a lot of it contains overt discrimination on sexuality and gender roles. Looking at girls photos(and admiring it), collecting them, and wanting to protect a girl is not lesbian, human are inherently bisexual. At some occasion, the soul defense mechanism where it cuts off the persons awareness from his/her feelings(due to depression or stress) will create tension that will resolve in lesbian/gay dreams.

[theorycraft]

Nobody is 100% gay or 100% straight, that is a false dichotomy thats been set up for us to believe it but humans certainly don't function that way. I'll take it to a whole new level and say I'm attracted to animals. There is just a sense of protection being with a grizzly bear that both men and woman cannot offer.

[chwoey]

Thanks for all the input, I suppose this is something I will just have to let develop on its own so that I can really say what is what. Considering I've never been with a girl, its hard to say.
I think the fact, the only sex I've enjoyed was while intoxicated may also say something.

Just have to wait and see.

[chwoey]

I don't know Chwoey. I've always been into women. I never felt the level of comfort you seem to have with guys. I've joked about being a "Lesbian trapped in a man's body," but maybe your issue isn't sexuality, but gender identity. Maybe you feel more "female" than male.

I definitely have had some gender identitiy issues. For a long time part of me has wished i was a male (though, I like being able to dress myself up and my boobs), I quite desire the ability to nail a girl as hard as I can. Just the thought....
But, I can be quite female with them hormones, mood swings and that fun jazz.

[tanstaafl28]

I definitely have had some gender identitiy issues. For a long time part of me has wished i was a male (though, I like being able to dress myself up and my boobs), I quite desire the ability to nail a girl as hard as I can. Just the thought....
But, I can be quite female with them hormones, mood swings and that fun jazz.

Well, I guess the best thing to do is explore and see what works for you.