The only person I gave a personality test to is my sister (INFP). She certainly understands how ridiculous the family is, and she is very independent/withdrawn of any family members, but she values family... and values being nice. If I question something a family member says then she'll confront me on it (not because I'm right, but I'm being harsh ). If it were up to her I'd just take family with a grain of salt like she does because it's important to her, and I'd just let go of any questionable statements they say because it's better to be understanding or something. Outside of family we get along great, although she gets drained easily. She's the only one in the family who allows me to be so close.