[Enfpleasantly]

Ran across this today, made me think of this thread... :)

[Kyandigaru]

Usually, I like to surrender control in bed. Sometimes I'm aggressive. lol

Hmmmm? we should have coffee one day, perhaps when we are tired from sexing our men/huband and need a break from the whips, handcuffs and rape fantasies. What that being said, probably never...LMAO.

I like the very same things that aren't fucken rose petals all the time. This is nice in the beginning of the proclaimed relationship, however, I like to change it up every once in awhile.

[bionic]

I'd rather fart on my partner. I'm kinky like that. ;)

[thelivingdaylights]

Having been with a couple ENTJs--and I'm with one at the moment--I find that they like to be controlled in the bedroom more than anything. They spend so much of their lives in charge--planning, ordering, just thinking--that they need to have someone knowledgeable and experienced in the bedroom take control for a while. Two ENTJs have explained it to me as just wanting to focus on pleasing me or being taken by me without having to make decisions. Both are into being tied up, being made to say they are giving up control, and various levels of rough sex (both described liking "rape-y" sex.

With that said, both had their "in-control" moments that they enjoyed in bed, but stated a preference for being dominated.

[Nighty88]

@thelivingdaylights

I recognize a possible threesome opportunity.

[Elistra]

Having been with a couple ENTJs--and I'm with one at the moment--I find that they like to be controlled in the bedroom more than anything. They spend so much of their lives in charge--planning, ordering, just thinking--that they need to have someone knowledgeable and experienced in the bedroom take control for a while. Two ENTJs have explained it to me as just wanting to focus on pleasing me or being taken by me without having to make decisions. Both are into being tied up, being made to say they are giving up control, and various levels of rough sex (both described liking "rape-y" sex.

With that said, both had their "in-control" moments that they enjoyed in bed, but stated a preference for being dominated.

Frankly, if he's not AT LEAST as dominant in bed as I am out of it, I'd even rather do my taxes. At least when I do my taxes, I have a chance of getting something good at the end, yes? :P

[Entejay]

Frankly, if he's not AT LEAST as dominant in bed as I am out of it, I'd even rather do my taxes. At least when I do my taxes, I have a chance of getting something good at the end, yes? :P

I don't see how dominance and doing it good are related.

[Elistra]

I don't see how dominance and doing it good are related.

They aren't, for everyone. Some people like it, though.

Without going into too much detail, my problem is basically this -- If I'm awake at all, I'm pondering, planning, and deciding things. All good, logical forebrain stuff, we'll say. And frankly, in that state, I can't get enough resources on the ... the sexual parts of the more primitive circuitry, we'll say... to actually ... erm...

Not being the one planning and deciding lets me shut down the forebrain enough, metaphorically speaking, that I can allocate those resources for ... erm, other purposes.

Oh bah, that's enough. You get the idea.

[Wellsy]

@Elistra

So you think a lot and being the one who things are done to, you can focus on the physical sensations and not think, to enjoy yourself?

[Entejay]

They aren't, for everyone. Some people like it, though.

Without going into too much detail, my problem is basically this -- If I'm awake at all, I'm pondering, planning, and deciding things. All good, logical forebrain stuff, we'll say. And frankly, in that state, I can't get enough resources on the ... the sexual parts of the more primitive circuitry, we'll say... to actually ... erm...

Not being the one planning and deciding lets me shut down the forebrain enough, metaphorically speaking, that I can allocate those resources for ... erm, other purposes.

Oh bah, that's enough. You get the idea.

Then allow me to change the wording for you and call it....competence.

You want to trust the person to do things right, which will allow you to take your brain away from correcting your partner to enjoying whats done to you?

It's competence. Dominance is quite different. Alternatively, your partner may not be competent and know exactly what you need, but still boss you around. I'm sure that's not what you are looking for?